A close relative of mine got married a while back and I wasn't chosen as a bridesmaid because I was married. I normally wouldn't care but she chose other bridesmaid she hardle knew and my husband was the best man!!! Is this BS or a real tradition?
2006-11-16 13:53:40 · 20 answers · asked by IKEA freak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I didn't mind not being a bridesmaid, I just don't like people to BS me. I want the truth, even if it hurts. My sister is a BSer and it just gets you into trouble in the end.
2006-11-17 01:47:00 · update #1
The Catholic Church enforces no such prerequisite. The marital status of bridesmaids and matrons of honor is irrelevant. They can be married or single, it doesn't matter to the Church.
Your friend's choice of bridemaids might be the result of a private family tradition, separate from the Church.
I would look to yoru friend's family's tradition for the answer.
2006-11-17 01:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by Daver 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's BS! A coworker of mine just had a Catholic wedding like 2 months ago and their an older couple and her maid of honor was married. My best friend had a Catholic wedding last year and one of the groomsmans was married. The bride even had already had a baby and he walked in the wedding and I am baptist and was the Maid of Honor. One of my boy cousins just got married this past summer and the maid of honor was his sister who has been married for like 8 years now and has 2 kids. Now I don't know much about the catholic religion but where I am from Catholic is the main religion around here so I know enough. But I know that some priests have different viewpoints. Like when my friend with the baby got married the priest in our hometown would not marry her but the priest in the town over did and he married her in like a different town not even his chuirch. Maybe she really did lie to you and maybe she didn't. She is the only person who really knows. If it really is bothering you then maybe she is the only one you can really ask. This is how I like to think of things sometimes. If your husband or even your mom or sister did something that aggravated you or pissed you off you would tell them right? So we do we treat our friends so differently. If you really care about her then why not treat her like somebody you care about. A couple of months my best friend started being all weird and stuff and she would like never call me but her brother would tell me that she is alwasy with this other girl and I started thinking about that. I asked my fiance the same question "Why can I get so mad at you when you do wrong but I can't tell her how I feel"? And so I did. She understood and apologized for how she was treating me and we're fine now!! Maybe you should talk to her. That's the only way you'll really ever find out. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 02:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is BS - I was a bridesmaid in a Catholic wedding 4 years ago - and I have been married 8 years. actually, most of the 5 bridesmaids at that wedding were married.
2006-11-16 15:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bridesmaids were traditionally unmarried. Maid of Honor, unmarried. Matron of Honor, married. Today, many couples don't stick to old traditions. I know a couple where the groom had his SISTER as his BEST person. The bride had her brother as her Man of Honor. As they are just witnesses to the marriage, it really doesn't matter, does it? But maybe there are rules in the Catholic church about attendants. I'm Protestant, so I don't know.
2006-11-16 14:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have planned many Catholic weddings, at my church and on my own, and I'm a Catholic myself...that being said, you can still be married and be a bridesmaid, it doesn't matter. However, if you are chosen for the honor position, you are a matron of honor and not a maid of honor. That is the only difference.
2006-11-16 14:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's called a bridesMAID, which connotes an unmarried woman. There is such a thing as a Matron of Honour, who can be married, instead of a Maid of Honour, who is single. It all depends upon the traditions one follows. Sorry you didn't have the opportunity, but usually brides choose single women for their bridal party.
2006-11-16 22:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is BS! I got married in a catholic church, and I had two bridesmaids who were married, two that were engaged, and one that was single. All my bridesmaids were not even catholic so I don't see how the marriage thing can matter.
2006-11-16 13:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by kayle_rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be a tradition for some people or some cultures.
But Church Law only requires the presence of two witnesses to the marriage. The witnesses' religion, gender or marital state is not an issue.
With love in Christ.
2006-11-16 15:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a irish/italian catholic-and been to like 100-been in 8 weddings-i NEVER heard this.
most of time non catholic sin't even a problem.
Total BS
2006-11-17 01:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about that, but I know someone who got married in the catholic church and she couldn't have the maid of honor that was her first choice because her first choice wasn't catholic. She had to choose a catholic maid of honor.
2006-11-16 14:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by redhairedgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋