My father was abusive growing up. He was an alcolholic and beat my mother and me. Growing up I swore I would never end up like my father. He was a bastard and I hated him. Now I'm married with a 3 year old daughter. Our marriage is on the rocks right now. We have a hard time paying bills, ect, and it makes our marriage more stressful. I was drinking alcolhol watching the football game a couple nights ago when my wife walked in angry. She was mad that I was relaxing after a long days work and that I wasn't taking care of our daughter. (Wife works till 2pm, picks up daughter from daycare, cleans house, ect.) she was yelling at me and it pissed me off, i work hard to pay for our home, bills, clothes, ect, and I was feeling unappreciated. Well....I slapped her. I feel bad, and humiliated. I can't look at myself and feel good. I'm turning into my father. My wife took my daughter and drove to her parents to stay the night. She said she won't come home. What can i do?
2006-11-16 13:50:48 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I can relate. My dad is just like yours. I have a restraining order from him! If you have been a good husband and father, im sure she will forgive you. my dad has been through 4 wives, he is a horrible person, and i hate it when people say my legal last name. I cant wait until im old enough to change my name! He is always abusive though. Im sure that this problem will pass on for you. Just lay off the alcohol.
2006-11-16 14:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by fizzylemonade 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hitting Your Wife
2016-12-18 17:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEEK GOD MY BROTHER! THEN SEEK THERAPY! U ADMITTED U NEED HELP! HARD PART IS OVER! I'LL PRAY FOR U!
2006-11-16 14:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by murmic05 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Swing a little early and just "throw your hands at it" if you do it right you should hit the sweet spot and it should feel like a solid hit A good exercise to practice this is take your bat and find a fence (not metal or you'll screw your bat up) like a batting cage and put the bat pointing out of your chest so it just grazes the fence and swing try to focus on just grazing the fence and follow through naturally.. You'll get the hang of it
2016-03-14 13:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. You must realize that you're making excuses for what you did. And there is none. Apologize and seek help. Anger management, AA, whatever. Do what you have to do to fix this. And promise to never do this again.
I understand how hard it is to raise a family, work all day and deal with all the pressures that go along with it. Everyone goes through this. But the next time you watch a football game, you may want to lay off the booze. It just causes a lot of problems. And it isn't worth hurting your family and losing them. Good luck to you.
2006-11-16 14:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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My father was abusive growing up. He was an alcolholic and beat my mother and me. Growing up I swore I would never end up like my father. He was a bastard and I hated him. Now I'm married with a 3 year old daughter. Our marriage is on the rocks right now. We have a hard time paying bills, ect,...
2015-08-14 10:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK bud you know whats wrong now fix the problem. A million sorry's will not be enough, and actions speak louder than words. go on your own and get help. Call someone look on the net
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm#abuser try that one. if you don't get help now it will only get worse. May i recommend cut the Booze out. If you get help by your self then maby you have a chance bro. Be safe and be patent with her. the situation is bad for everyone. but Counseling is now a must. Good luck.
2006-11-16 14:35:05 · answer #7 · answered by rjl2382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father was abusive to us to physically, and emotionally and he didn't drink. It's going to be hard, but cut out the alcohol first and foremost, get counseling. because I don't know if she called the police or not this is a severe thing if it gets on your record.
If you get angry, go to your room, walk outside, but for pete's sake don't hit your wife or daughter.
2006-11-16 14:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think you should check your local phonebook and get some counseling sessions scheduled....you will not be able to beat this without it.
You are taking the first step by admitting that this is wrong and I think thats an excellent start for you.
Just because you had an abusive father doesnt mean that you have to follow in his footsteps and you dont want your little girl growing up afraid of you. So please get the help that you need and then try to put your family back together You can also ask your wife to go to counceling with you for your relationship. Good luck and I hope all works out well for you.
2006-11-16 14:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you have wrote.Sorry,but it sounds more like an excuse than an apology.You gave all kinds of reasons for doing what you did.I use to do the same thing.I could have wrote this very same letter,word for word.You probably don't want this advice,but I tried really hard to stop this behavior.You might do better if you (completely quit drinking),but for me I had to go a step further,but it was worth it.I became a Christian,my wife did to.That was six years ago and I swear I to you,I never knew me and my wife could love one another the way we do.One other thing,you can be a good man,or you wouldn't have wrote this.
2006-11-16 14:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋