for anyone who hasnt already answered my girl and i have been goin out for almost a year it will be a year in like a week then all of a sudden she comes out of nowhere yesterday and says she wants to break up and says its her not me that i do everything she could ever dream of and more and she is glad that i let her do really whatever she wants then today she says that she is mad at me and says it is over what the hell is this all about and what should i do i love her to death and she says she loves me more than anyone else. i really dont want it to end any advice is welcome on what to do or what is going through her mind thanks everyone. trust me i know she is not cheating some well trusted mutual freinds are with her if she did somethin and didnt tell me i would know about it thats why i have no problems plus she has always proven herself trustworthy thats why this makes no sense to me
2006-11-16 13:49:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I tell a guy that "It's me not you",I mean"You are really sweet but I'm so over you!".If she thinks like I do the only thing you can do to get her attention is to be an asshole and act like you don't want her, anymore.She'll come around if she's like me.
For your sake I hope she's not like me.
2006-11-16 13:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going from good to bad in no time is fickleness. Someone who pulls this is playing hard to get (aka the "nurse my broken wing" treatment) Oftentimes, this kind of woman would like the man to ask what "her" issue is. This can be an underhanded way of saying "Give me what I want, or I'll leave you permanently."
If you want to keep this troublemaker, the statement you make by giving in now will absolutely be a problem down the line. What will she do the next time she doesn't see fit to communicate normally? Eventually, this could cost you half your possessions and mess up your children.
I think you should mention your immediate concerns, and state your boundaries in the most sensitive, cool-headed, and direct way possible. Be gentle, but she needs to know what you're willing to deal with and for exactly how long if you ever want a sense of finality.
You will have owned up to your responsibility, and the ball will be in her court. If she crosses the line again, you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that she's up to her old business.
If it turns out to be you and not her who is objectionable, at least you'll know why.
2006-11-16 22:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by _ _ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she isnt cheating then it could be anything... i know she has said its her and not you (we all say that). but ask her to explain in detail. She could have decided your both too young. or she doesn't want to hold you back from something, or she has her eyes on someone else and needs to end it with you first....Just ask her for the truth..
2006-11-16 21:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by as 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it hard but try talking to her. Tell her why she wants to break up with you or what u did. ( u may have not doen anything but listen to what she has to say) Afterwards just tell her how u feel and how much u love her and would miss her. We girls love to be noticed and complimented on.
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-16 21:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by hazelstar2love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just might want something from you and feels like you havent gotten it for her. She might have her period also...
2006-11-16 21:54:14 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel, well she might be on her period
2006-11-16 21:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ledzeppelin324 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋