I am getting married to my best friend in the whole world. We get along great but he has no idea how to be romantic. I have tried to deny my need for romance claiming its some girly useless thing. But I need up heartbroken. I want to help him learn how to treat a woman. He is not mean or bad just romantically retarded.
2006-11-16 13:42:34 · 15 answers · asked by shea26 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh boy, you've got a handfull, don't you?
Here's an idea. Be a good example. Show him a romantic gesture. Make it a good one. Wait several days. Don't ask his right away; cause it will come off to planned. Then challenge him to best what you did for him. Bet you didn't think of that, now did you?
Oh whatever you do must be good too. Go buy some flower pedals, not Rose pedals (Because you'll take away an easy realization for him to discover.), and create a trail fro the living room to your bedroom. Walk him down the trail.........
You can fill in the rest of that scene.
Remember the Golden Rule. He'll catch on.
Also go to some romantic movies or watch some videos with him. Then in a womanly way, drop some hints about what you like in the movie.
There now, all better! Go get 'em!
One more thing, if you aren't getting something that you really want from him then perhaps you need to rethink you're actual involvement. If you suggest that you both take a break for a while and you date some others then one of two things may occur: 1) You'll cause this guy to rethink what he may lose in you. 2) You may find somebody better.
I'm outta here, babe.
2006-11-16 14:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by tototo10011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are simply not romantic...why would you agree to marry someone whom you choose to be heartbroken over because he doesn't do as you desire?
Accept him for who he is, love him as a non-romantic, or let him go...
You might be able to badger him into some romantic gestures (flowers for special occasions and such) but if he's not a romantic guy, it's not going to come spontaneously and will be more because he knows you want it, than "just because" he loves you...
2006-11-16 21:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You be the romantic one. You do the romantic things first and then he'll get the idea with the examples
2006-11-16 21:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well create the enviromment....first of all you have to be romantic so he can get used to the enviromment....maybe one day he miss it and he will create it for you....
a dinner you can light up candles and make it cozy ...the bedroom can have a anything that can make it romantic
leave notes .....kiss alot and play romantic music ..massages ..how he will remember ...how he will miss it if he is not experience it ....it is in your hands to make him the way you want it to be
2006-11-16 21:50:04 · answer #4 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to organize a romantic date if you haven;t already.... and maybe he will get a sense of how to be romantic... try to watch romantic movies... maybe he will open up a bit more for romance
2006-11-16 21:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta show him that romantic is fun! I'd say that you should initiate something romantic and see how he responds. Hopefully he gets it that being romantic will be fun for him too.
2006-11-16 21:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by The Captain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion, use a third party to do this, that way the teachings won't come off as being ackward or condisending. Use one of your friends to do this, this way it will seem as if she is giving him insider information on you when is reality she will be giving him ideas on how to be romatic with you. good luck!
2006-11-16 21:53:03 · answer #7 · answered by Trevor L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant teach someone to be romantic, its not a class
he has to learn it on his own
observe others
or jus go on a date with him, and make it romantic
then see what he has learned, and ask him to take you out a little while after
2006-11-16 21:46:24 · answer #8 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set the mood:
His favorite dinner, by candle light.
Romantic music playing: Luther,Tyrese,Joe....etc......
dim the lights
After dinner ask him how he liked everything, of course he will say he liked everything.
Then tell him the next time is your turn.
Tell him that he knows what you like, so make you happy.
Then sit back, relax, and enjoy!!!!!
2006-11-16 21:48:50 · answer #9 · answered by purpleone726 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is internally bred in their genes. They either are or they aren't. Sorry but you can't force someone to be romantic. They can't be trained...they can only perform some acts of romanticism, in my opinion. good luck.
2006-11-16 21:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋