Ive been seeing a man who spends lots of money on me. Thing is he wants sex. Just because he buys me things should i give him sex? i want him to make love because he loves me, not because he thinks he deserves it. (known him 3 yrs)
2006-11-16 13:25:23 · 21 answers · asked by as 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hes not my "boyfriend". and his point of view is that "hes spending all this money on me - but hes not doing it to get me in bed" he wants us to move to another country and start a new life together......but because i would f**k him the other night he has now fallen out with me...
2006-11-16 14:30:19 · update #1
i meant wouldn't f**k him the other night, now hes fallen out with me.
2006-11-16 14:31:28 · update #2
Don't base a meaningful relationship with someone on material possesions. Anything he buys you isn't something a big wind wouldn't blow away. Ask yourself, what does he do for your emotions when he isn't handing you a gift? Does he stimulate you mentally, or bore you until the next present? After the presents stop, will he still excite you?
2006-11-16 13:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by on2lifesjourney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say no. If you put out, that's good enough for me. But him buying your sex means he's the John and you're the prostitute. I'd let him know that if he really wants to impress you, not to spend money on you. Offer to pay for dinner yourself. Or you can let him know that if he insists on buying you stuff, that you guarantee that you won't have sex with him. Don't say that if he doesn't spend money on you that you WILL have sex with him because then it looks like a loophole.
2006-11-16 21:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Eric B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if sex is his motive for dating you then dump him now.....if he only buying you those gifts in order to have sex then just leave..... but....you have been in the relationship for 3 years... and that's quite alot.. by this time many couple already had sex.... it's okay if your waiting for marriage, and he should respect it.....i suggest you to find out his reason for dating you...I do not recommend to keep accepting his money and expensive gifts and not giving him sex because this situation might come out really bad..... what of he will get mad and upset with the fact that he spent so much time and money on you and got no action.... he might rape you. so think about it and perhaps try to stay away
2006-11-16 21:35:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been daiting him for 3 yrs, or just knowing him, dont sleep with him unless you are willing to face the facts that might come with it, he might by you things just so that he can get into your pants and thats just not cool, make sure that you love him, and that he loves you, not that he tells you that he loves you but that he really does, bc it seems like you want to have sex with some one that you love and some one that loves you, not jsut a good f**k
2006-11-16 21:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by rebecca j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't trade sex for gifts or out of guilt. If you truly have feelings for this guy, talk to him about his feelings & expectations. If he likes you for you and not as merchandise, great. Otherwise stop accepting gifts. Many men do feel that if they invest time and money they deserve something in return. Do you really want that to be the basis of your relationship?
2006-11-16 21:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by ape2016 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're asking this question shows you right there that you are not ready to do this. No one else can tell you when you're ready for something like this. He's showering you with gifts because he wants sex, well is that all that you are worth? Think about it, I bet you are worth so much more. Anyone that pressures for sex is not worth it. Good luck honey.
2006-11-16 21:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex because he spends lot of money on you. Have sex when you have a ring on your finger, a walk down the aisle, and a husband that loves and respects you. You won't regret it.
2006-11-16 21:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take the gifts if it is a condition of you sleeping with him. When the time is right to have sex you should feel comfortable about it and not have the need to ask if you should.
2006-11-16 21:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Shell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a prostitute and should feel forced to have sex just for gifts or money or attention.
2006-11-16 21:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in the world a man buys me can pay for my body. Dont know 'bout you.
2006-11-16 21:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋