There is a girl that liked me, she asked me for a dance which I refused. I was so silly to have done that. She told me that she broke up with her BF. I took that as a sign to pursue her since I liked her but her BF was the reason I backed off and shyness too.On the first 2 dates, we didn't kiss. On the 3rd date however, I kissed her. She seem to like it. Mind you she invited me to her place for dinner. She told me that she was just getting out of the relationship, she's not sure what I need out of the relationship...... I'm like what the heck? I don't want to get hurt at the end you know.I really like this girl. However, I'm afraid that she might go to her old BF. What should I do? I have feelings for this girl
2006-11-16 13:13:02 · 11 answers · asked by hey101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she's on the rebound. I'd stay friends with her, but I wouldn't consider her for serious dating yet. I see red flags all over the place: she's broken up with BF, but wants to date you already? She's talking about what you want out of the relationship when you've had 3 dates?? And if you're worried she might get back together with the ex, WAIT! If she gets back with the ex, that tells me 2 things: either she is clingy and feels she HAS to be in a relationship or she doesn't know what she wants and hasn't decided fully if she's done with that relationship.
2006-11-16 13:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the most important detail that you forgot to mention is if she is hot and if so does she know that she is? Ok lets look at the situation where is hot...bad news my friend you are going to be just another experiment in this girls eyes. Remember hot chicks can command sex out of most men, probably why girls have no need for things like porn or strip clubs. If you are comfortable of this being a purely physical relationship, I say go for it forget the nice guy routine whether natural or not and just go for it, but if you want this chick for a real relationship, tough look elsewhere. If you approach this as regular relationship then she will just keep you hanging, literally.
Look at the fact that she just broke up with a BF so she is trying to boost her ego by dating a guy/any guy right afterwards. And if it is about 2 weeks after her last period then she is also feeling a little randy and wants to cash in on her new found freedom.
Ask yourself this, if you where a millionair and could get any chick with little to no effort and you just broke up with some chick wouldn't you abuse your power just a little?
2006-11-16 21:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Trevor L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you haven't taken any steps further, other than kissing, leave that way for a while. Right now she needs a friend. If she wants to take it further, she will let you know one way or the other. You don't want to be the rebound BF, do you ? Just tell her that you like her alot but don't want to push her to do anything she doesn't want to do, and if she needs someone to talk to, that you are there for her. She will appreciate your honestly and willingness to help. If it is meant for the two of you to be a couple, then so be it, but if it isn't, then you have a good friend. Good Luck!
2006-11-16 21:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by Bren 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
One of two things. Either let her know you have feelings(and have had them I am assuming from the way it sounds) and tell her you want to move very very slow, or don't say anything and let her call the shots. EITHER WAY, there is really not much you can do because you cannot control how she feels. Maybe ask her what she thinks of you or how she feels about you. Then take it from there.
2006-11-16 21:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't go for it you may loose her, and it will eat you alive by not knowing what she'll say. You already know that you liked the kisses, and you know that you love to be with her, so why don't you want her to know how you feel. See if a girl thinks that nothing is going to happen, then they'll move on, and I know you don't want to miss out on all that woman, do you, well go and get your woman dud.
2006-11-16 21:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her time. She sounds confused. Be a friend and nothing more at this point. Show her you respect her, and give her enough space to figure out what she wants.
2006-11-16 21:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take things slow, let her make thee moves, coming on to fast to her might scare her away...let things happen naturally...good luck
2006-11-16 21:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take it as slow as her and it will all start to take it's rightful place
2006-11-16 21:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by blkbelt2004ab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get too involved yet. enjoy her company for the moment.
2006-11-16 21:35:22 · answer #9 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait
2006-11-16 21:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋