I'm getting married and I'm a virgin. I'm really scared of sex. They say it will hurt. I feel so scared. Does it hurt for a girl?
2006-11-16 13:08:27 · 14 answers · asked by Mr Business 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Feel like I don't want to get married
2006-11-16 13:10:51 · update #1
No it doesn't...just be sure that you are well lubed and he is gentle...don't be scared...this is a great thing!
2006-11-16 13:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saruman: With lots of access to sex and marriage both, in books and on line, you should be able to be informed. You will NOT be hurt ... guaranteed ! The girl may feel some pain ... but have HER do the pushing because SHE can feel what her own body can tolerate. This is normal for the first time. Go s-l-o-w with her. Remember; the biggest sex "gland" on a girl is her MIND. She needs to feel loved and wanted. Good luck !!!
2006-11-16 13:19:13 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all congrats as to still being a virgen. It does hurt a little bit but its the best thing in the world, specially if you are doing things right the way they are supposed to be done. Do not be scared, relax and everything will be ok.
2006-11-16 13:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Aby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the story for most. You might be very good to take the hubby to be to a sex therapist. Unless he knows what he is doing or is going to be extremely gentle with you on your first time, then I would recomend it. Your being scared is only going to make you more tense when the time comes which will make it hurt more(tense, tightened up). Talk to him about it and see what he says.
2006-11-16 13:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Batracer04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Scared? Sweetie, don't be scared. It's sex... I think it's so sweet your waiting until your married. Don't worry about. Your first time most likely will hurt... you won't mind you'll be so much in love and sooo happy... No worry yourself. Everything will be wonderful!!!
Best Wishes
2006-11-16 13:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will hurt more if you're scared and tense. Explain to your fiance that you're nervous about it and ask him to be gentle with you. Take a hot bath or have him give you a nice massage beforehand. The more relaxed you are the less likely it'll be painful.
2006-11-16 13:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married because you feel like you have to. You will just wish later that you hadn't done it. And don't be afraid of your first time. Dont think it will hurt, everyone has to go through it.
2006-11-16 13:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not something you should be scared of and you should try talking to your partner about how you feel, i don't think this is enough maybe you need to see a counsellor, good luck!
2006-11-16 13:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Kebony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive heard it does,but only for the first time,i understand that it gets better and becomes enjoyable after a while for women.Then again im not a woman so i cant tell you.
2006-11-16 13:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by younglakshmimittal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy so I cannot tell you. I wanted to say congrats on the wedding and saving yourself for you wedding night
2006-11-16 13:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by sickand tired 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a beautiful and wonderful thing to share with the one you love...I can't speak for females...but to share that moment of intimacy with the one you love...to explore each others bodies...I promise if you just give yourself to him and he does the same for you it will be very special...
2006-11-16 13:14:24 · answer #11 · answered by loofa36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋