Well I dated this guy for a year and I have no clue why I stayed with him so long. I didnt find any attractiveness to him, we barely had sex because it was like I dont know I didnt like it. Has anyone ever experienced this? Does that make someone a bad person? I mean he was a really nice guy but thats it.
2006-11-16 12:56:02 · 15 answers · asked by Patricia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were just settling till you found something better. I hope you didn't hurt him! I'm not going to say it's bad if both of you had an understanding. But if you lied to him, or led him on, you probably hurt him and yes that is bad. Think how you would feel if someone did that to you. I'm glad to know you have a conscious and are feeling some sort of remorse. Lesson learned about yourself, from now on don't do something to anyone you wouldn't want done to yourself. "What goes around comes around!" I believe that!!!!!!
2006-11-16 12:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a situation like yours now. I have been with this guy for four years. I thought I loved him in the beginning of the relationship, but now looking back, I don't think I ever really loved him at all. Now I hate the way he looks, the way he talks, the way he eats, the way he sleeps etc.. I don't really think that I'm settling. I think I'm really still with him out of guilt and pity. Because he is really a good man and I really believe he loves me, but he is not the one for me. I feel guilty for letting it go this long. I think this may be what you are feeling. But after reading some of the other answers to your question, I think that I am going to tell him how I feel. And no this does not make you a bad person.
2006-11-16 21:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by Itsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "settled"...for whatever reason you chose to be in a relationship that wasn't good, versus single and open to something better...
It doesn't make you a bad person at all...you simply short changed yourself during that time...and also it's not very flattering to the person being selttled for (I mean, how would you like to know the guy you were dating didn't totally dig you...he just thought "she'll do")...y'know?
Y'all simply weren't a good match...but do yourself and future partners a favor...don't "settle"...make sure it's fabulous, or not at all...why accept less?
2006-11-16 20:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think one time or another we have all had a relationship like that. Then when we look back we cant figure out why we even wasted our time because we dont know why we were with them. It doesnt make anyone a bad person, it's just one of those things in life that we do and will never understand why.
2006-11-16 20:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad person. Sometimes we stay in situations because it's convenient, or we're just too lazy to face making a change. I'm sure a lot of people get stuck in a rut and keep doing things they're not really enjoying. No big deal.
2006-11-16 20:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't a bad person. I did the same thing with a guy but it was for 3 years! I even had a kid with him. I loved him in the beginning, but slowly i felt like he was just not attractive, he ticked me off, etc. The sex wasn't that good either.
I don't know why i stayed, but I guess I'm not alone! Thanks
2006-11-16 20:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by L♥G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have experienced this, and to this day I wish her well, but she was just not right for me. I have since found one that is right for me, and we are very happy, but I still wonder what was it that I could not find with her. It is very normal, just hard to explain.
2006-11-16 21:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah happened to me before. kinda wierd. nice girl and all but she was dum as a brick. i was nice and didnt take advantage of her. no it doesnt make you bad. i mean its hard to dump them. cuz i bet that guy you went out with was probably desperate and tried to get whatever booty he can and may be dum or geeky.
2006-11-16 20:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it happens. All you can do now is learn from the experience and move on--hopefully to someone who you are more compatible with.
2006-11-16 21:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see the point in going out with someone if you dont even like him.
2006-11-16 20:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋