I turn 18 in 5 months but will be on probation for at least a year.when i turn 18 will i be able to move out?

Question

I'm 17 years old. Last month I committed a felony which was dropped to a mis. During my stay in juvenille hall my boyfriend of 5 years tried despartely to come visit and contact me but my PO and parents didn't allow it. I was released on Electronic Monitering and was given conditons by the court. I could not contact my boyfriend. I feel that it's unfair because he had nothing to do with my crime. He just wanted to be there and visit me. I violated the order and my EM is extended. After my EM is removed I will be on probation. My family is not on my side and it trying to use the court to punish me. They reported a restraining order and it was granted and will last for 3 years. It was granted because I already had a court order. One, when I turn 18 will I be able to move out still on probation and ward of the court? Will I be able to live with my boyfriend? How do I get rid of the restraining order that my parents put on my boyfriend when I become 18? When I turn 18 will i still have a

Well its not my parents. My dad is a drug addict and my mom is not around. My aunt is the one that requested the restaining order.She does not like my boyfriend because she felt like I picked him over her. Over the summer she kicked me out of her home but reported me as a runaway. I returned to school and the police found me. She told the officer since I left home, she doesn't care if I come home or not. The officer told her she is reponsible for me so she picked me up. Since than she has only wanted to punish me and when I went to juvenille she used the court to punish me for running away.

Answer 1

You should be able to move out provided your probation officer considers it a suitable environment. If the court set the conditions of probation to be no contact with your boyfriend then you can not have contact with your boyfriend without risk of violating your probation. When you violate your probation by being with him not only are you risking getting yourself in more trouble but you are putting your boyfriend at risk for getting into toruble because he is violating the restraining order. There must be some reason your family and the court don't want you with this guy. I am just wondering what it is that they see that you are not able to see. Believe it or not they probably just want whats best for you. Sometimes when we are young and in love we are blind to the harm a destructive relationship is causing in our own lives.

Answer 2

Your parents don't have to be on your side to do what's best for you. Despite what you think, they're not just trying to get you in trouble and make life hard for you. All of that you asked will depend on the condition of your parole. The courts do not hand out restraining orders to anyone who wants one. They need proof, which your parents provided. If he didn't have anything to do with your crime, he might have had something to do with your decision making prior.

Take a long hard look and evaluate your life and your future. Realistically, where do you see yourself in 10 years? Get a good education and start obeying the law or you'll be flipping burgers the rest of your life. Love interests come and go. Don't let a boyfriend you had when you were 17 dictate your future - you'll 100% without a doubt regret it no matter how much you think is true now.

Update:
If your aunt kicked you out, the responsible thing would have been to go to the police and report her. If she has legal custody of you, you must stay with her since you are a minor.

She provided sufficient evidence that allowed the court put a restraining order on him. When you turn 18 and are on probation, it will no longer be a restraining order, it will be part of your probation. If you come into contact with him while you are on probation you go to jail. No more juvie.

Since you and your boyfriend are spending so much time apart, it is likely he moved on. Guys move on very quickly once they realize they cannot be with a girl. I suggest you move on as well and start trying to live a better life. Evaluate your life and realize you've made immature mistakes and decisions.

Answer 3

You are the property of the probation department, so to speak. You will have to clear it with your probation officer. If your probation officer is not cooperative with what you want, at the age of 18 you can request a hearing and go in front of a judge and request what you want. Be prepared. Have representation. An attorney.

I'm sure there is more to this story then you are telling. Your boyfriend might not be so good for you and that is why the court, the probation department is agreeing with your parents.

You need to get your life on track. The things you think are important right now are not the things that indicate you are very mature in your decision making process.

No one loves you more than your parents. I'm sure no one lusts after you more than your boyfriend. I assure you that when your boyfriend decides to move on your parents will be there for you so I advise you to treat them with a bit more respect and calm down.

Take a good look at yourself and check yourself. Self improvement goes a long way. If your boyfriend respects your relationship he will be there when the time comes. If he is not don't worry about it, it won't be the end of the world for you.

Answer 4

Parole/Probation officers are notorious for not telling it like it is in a effort to do what they think is best for you or for them depending on how you look at it. You can drop the restraining order when you are 18 but if the conditions of your parole/probation say you can't have any contact with him then it is irrelevant if you have the restraining order dropped or not. Your best bet is to hire a lawyer and find out what you can do and what your rights are.

Answer 5

some of this will depend on the conditions of your parole. your parole officer should be able to answer these questions and explain any restrictions, and a lawyer would be able to handle any requests or motions you would need to petition the court for. talk to your parold officer when you turn 18.

Best wishes..

Answer 6

Your parents must be so proud. You sound like a real gem.