We haven't so much as spoken to each other & I'm still very mad at her.
She hasn't acknowledged anything important I've done lately even though she's known about it.
I don't want to be childish but half of me wants to stand by my principles & part of me at least wants to send her a card because after all, she is my mother.
What do you think?
2006-11-16 12:49:21 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it would be nice of you to send a card because like you said, she is your mother. Plus it shows that you are being the adult and trying to make a nice gesture. Also, just because you're sending her a card doesn't mean that you are totally forgiving her, it's reminding her that you're thinking of her on her special day and that you'll always love her no matter what you two are going though.
best of luck!
2006-11-16 12:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sam B. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, she IS your mother! Forgive her for whatever has happened, and even communicate with her to clear the air. If you haven't spoken to her for 2 months, a birthday acknowledgment will break the ice and maybe even open things up again. If you can't go see her, atleast send her a card and even some flowers. If you are able to go see her, bring her a card and some flowers. Just something to show her you still love her. Gotta try that forgiving thing first or your visit will end in ruins. Two months is a very long time to stay upset at someone. Give it a try, she is afterall your mother :)
2006-11-16 13:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person send her a card for her birthday and tell her you would like to take her to lunch don't mention anything more that to give you a call so you can set up the lunch. then while you are at the lunch address the situation and tell her how you feel and ask to here how she feels and really listen to each other and mend the fence. You only have one mother and we may not always agree especially the older we daughters get but they are still wise and still mom and we need them How would you feel if God forbid something should happen to her and you never fixed this or at least attempted to, Don't let that happen!
2006-11-16 15:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question sweetie, she is still your mother. By all means, send her a card and you should apologize for being mad at her. Maybe there is a reason why she hasn't said anything about your accomplishments. Talk to your mom, don't ever stay mad at her or your father. I have already lost both of my parents and I would give anything to have one more day with each of them. Just remember, they won't be around forever and they are human and make mistakes just like we do. There should never be anything you can't talk to your mother about, NOTHING!! She is your first best friend, remember that. Now, go and get your mom a beautiful birthday card and take it to her in person and give her a big hug and kiss.Good Luck!!
2006-11-16 12:56:11 · answer #4 · answered by Bren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be the more mature person in this situation. I went through a similar circumastance with my own mother, and we are best friends again. I don't know why you haven't spoken, but there is no reason on earth to remain isolated from each other. Send her a card, at the very least. If you are feeling brave, call her and wish her happy birthday. She will eventually break.
2006-11-16 12:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by Elise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how mad you are at her,she is still your mother.And will be until the day you die.It would be nice if the both of you could put what ever it is that's keeping you apart aside long enough to say (I LOVE YOU).Life is to short to carry grudges,it only hurts you and the people you love.To answer your question,Yes,send her a card,give her a call to say (HAPPY BIRTHDAY),Write her a letter,Email her,(GO SEE HER).
Do one of those,don't let your anger stop you from making that first.By the way,my definition of childish is,concentrating on the bad things that happened and not giving yourself or the other person a chance to experience the good that could come from these three words,I LOVE YOU.
2006-11-16 13:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right track in wanting to at least send your mother a card for her birthday. Nothing wrong with trying to keep what's left of the lines of communication open. Sorry to hear things are so stressful between you. Maybe this will give her a chance to start the conversation that will mend your relationship. Good luck!
2006-11-16 12:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by oldyogi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anna: Life is short ... really !!! The time you spend hating one another is truly - wasted time. Get a card and write a note telling her that in spite of the hard feelings existing between you two, that you still love her. (Swallow your pride ... you will be burying her one day !) Include within the card a list of the "good" things she has done for YOU ! You will melt her obstinate mind-set and she will realize that you are a human BEING not a human DOING !!! Think on this. She's your mom and no other person's mom. One of a kind !!! All the best to you !!!
2006-11-16 12:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you plan on never speaking to her again put down your guard long enough to send her a card. You can let her know you still love her and care that she's alive without giving in on your principals. Plus, it's a good way to open the lines of communication back up. Don't mention any of your issues with her. Just wish her a happy birthday and let her know you do still love her. Just the fact that you're asking is enough to tell me you're bothered by this and want to send her a card. :) Follow your heart.
2006-11-16 12:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the opposite of the Oedipus complicated? She's have been provided that, in spite of that's called. that's straightforward in overly posessive mothers. Sigmund Freud would assign it to an inner sexual choose for her son. in case you come from a society this is harsh on women human beings, she'd truthfully hate you for taking her male type, her male representative that would desire to never divorce her, in assessment to her husband who isn't from her kin and would throw her away. Have a occasion on your birthday and invite her over. only bringing it up won't artwork. deliver a written invitation, on a surprising card :) call on the day. If she does not come, have a verbal substitute along with her. If direct disagreement does not artwork, then have a verbal substitute inclusive of your hubby. He would desire to stand by utilising you, as you're his new kin, and his mom would desire to settle for that. i'm guessing that her ignoring your birthday is the two the top of an exceptionally huge iceberg of many resentments, or that she is being only stupid on that one factor because of the fact she will't be stupid on the different. If she remains being immature, overlook approximately her birthdays, and characteristic your self the main endearing events ever. deliver her present inclusive of your hubby. Frankly, she would desire to be sufficiently previous to advance UP.
2016-10-15 15:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋