I man told me that I was very pretty, had a lot going for me, nice family, kept in shape, accomlished and could get any man I wanted. I told him I was attracted to him, liked him and wanted to see him but I wasn't ready to date yet because I just got out of a relationship.
Everyone tells me he is nice and friendly. He was respectful to me initially but one night he asked me how I released sexual tension, if I used a "battery operated device", if I slept with my ex etc...
I found this offensive and told him so. I told him if he respected me he wouldn't have talked to me that way. He told me he considered it "having a mature conversation".
He told me me that "I was an easy target and he could have taken advantage of me" but because he thought "highly of me" he chose not to. I found this to be cocky and presumptuous.
He insists he is innocent but I think he is full of it and if he cared about a woman he wouldn't say those things to her. Am I right?
2006-11-16 12:48:26 · 24 answers · asked by shar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your right
2006-11-16 12:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by us citizen 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ugh! I would be offended by that...no matter how long I had known the person. If you are new "friends", then I would say that's highly presumptuous & none of his business. If you have been friends a while, he may think he's kinda building the bridge from friendship to relationship, but again...that's presumptuous and definitely not the way to go about it. What he did, would be a complete turn OFF to me.
2006-11-16 12:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Froggy 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Can Woman attempt ur question?
Maybe he is just being inquisitive. Like u said, he could straight away took advantage of u but he didnt. How else should he do to potray that he's innocent or just wanting to know?
I would want to know too, if i were him who wants to have serious commitment with u. Sorry, its just my point of view.
2006-11-16 12:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man...but good for you for standing up for yourself, girl! He sounds like a jackass...extremely disrespectful, and VERY cocky and presumptuous. I wouldn't blame you if you never spoke to him again, no matter how many times he claims his "innocence." If he truly thought "highly" of you, he would never have asked such an inappropriate question.
2006-11-16 12:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree with you. Those are definitely not appropriate things to say to someone, no matter how well you know them. When you are considering guys, the best thing to do as look at them as potential friends first. Would you be friends with someone who called you "an easy target" and asked you about battery operated toys. I know I wouldn't.
2006-11-16 12:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by HelpMeRhonda 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Of course your right.
Sounds like this guy is a good actor, keep away from him he might be a sicko.
Real men don't talk to women like that and yes he is trying to take advantage of someone who is vulnerable.
Good on you for standing up for your self respect, you did a good job. You got your head screwed on the right way.
APPLAUSE TO YOU.
2006-11-16 12:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, you are wrong!!! In today's society the subject must be discussed in order to not place blame when the time arises to have sex. It is part of any mature relationship, and must be discussed before a relationship can advance. He was a bit harsh, but men do have to become forward about the subject, so that women can not have them arrested for rape, or other sexual deviate behavior. He was correct, and you are too backwards to accept it.
2006-11-16 12:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
i agree with you. asking someone how they sexually satisfy themself is a very personal question.. and it certainly isn't the type of ice-breaker you ask someone you have just met and are interested in dating.
i think he was just acting out of frustration.. men take rejection very personal, and his reaction was out of anger since you turned him down for the dating proposal..
i'd definitely suggest you avoid this guy.. he seems like a real jerk.. for him to even suggest any type of harm towards you, that's a really dangerous sign.
sorry to hear you just got out of a relationship.. don't let your friends pressure you into dating again if you aren't ready..
good luck and all the best to you..
2006-11-16 12:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're right. A gentleman does not ask a woman if she pleasures herself, nor does he inform her of the many ways in which he chose not hurt her.
He's an icky jerk
2006-11-16 12:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
He may have just been comfortable with you. You may have taken it the wrong way. I guess it would have depended on his tone of voice when saying it. Maybe he seeing if your honest.
I could be wrong but it's possible.
2006-11-16 12:54:22 · answer #10 · answered by Just Me baby 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like your right ..if he did it in a light and in a little bit of a joking way then maybe he was just feeling you out...but if you were to say it was offensive too you and he just shrugged to off then tell him to hit the road...nobody needs that kind of guy
2006-11-16 13:04:35 · answer #11 · answered by Bob 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋