I had a wet dream last nite. Should I tell my missus?

Question

I dreamt I was Having sex with a total stunner, she had the most amazing A*se I've ever seen and was so sexy. But it wasnt my Girlfriend. I feel I have cheated on her, although it was beyond my control. I dont know whether or not i should tell her. I woke up and didn't find my GF as attractive as usual, and I feel so guilty now. Am I vain, or am I thinking too much into it? Will she label me a pervert? will she summise that I want to have sex with someone else?

Answer 1

yeah. you should

fee guilty I mean - because if you look at it from a moral stand point you sort of did cheat on her, by coveting something other than her.

but that sort of opinion is just so sodding puritanical and extremist and flat, not to mention impractical(!) that I don't think you should sweat it at all.

Ok so look at the situation: you tell her. What' she supposed to feel? You can't change the past, you can't change your mind, it's your mind! And she's naturally going to feel jealous perhaps, whether she say sit or not. She's obviously going to think and feel something, she's going to read something into it and it's not likely to be positive towards you!

One way you could have your cake and eat it is by posing the question as a hypothetical situation, you know like, ''what do you feel about jerking off or something, or thinking about other people in intimate situations - just thinking, not doing... 'cos it's not cheating is it? or is it?

& then she tells you what you think, you tell her what you think about her banging gorgeous guys in her mind :-) you laugh about it, have your fish and chips and everything's good and you're all savvy now.

yeah. hope this helps :D

Answer 2

Wet Dreams are normal.
I've been with my bf for three year and love him very much, there has been times that I had dreams about my ex, whom I was with for 5 years. Anyway, when I wake up I just laugh at it as I have no desire for my ex and have no control over my dreams either.
Just move on and don't think about it so much. Just be thankful you have a girl and there's no need to share such info with her. You're not cheating on her but I'm sure this info will hurt her, especially the fact that you like some imaginary girl more than your own girl.

Somethings are just better kept a secret, as long as you don't cheat on her in real life and love her the way she deserves you can have a little side fun ONLY in your dreams! lol

Answer 3

Im sorry but the fact you woke up less attracted to your GF says to me that you're maybe not in love wit hher as you maybe thought you was. A wet dream is not cheating, nor are having erotic dream. Im sure married people will agree with me that they... from time to time have had erotic drems about someone other than their signicant other, this is not cheating, its human nature. Wet dreams are normal (although normally through adolesance (sorry about the spelling but been drinkin lots!!!) but normal all the same. Another theory could be that you two have had a bit of a play before you went to sleep and you did not climax... your body will stil want to get rid of these fluids in one way shape or form.. they only come out of one place m8.... Im sure you can figure out were. Talk to your missus... Im sure she understands and also sure she has similar dreams! (infact I would bet my life she has)

Answer 4

I just looked in me dream book and it said

Intercourse:- The wish or need to be able to communicate with someone on a very intimate level can translate it self in intercourse in a dream.

Sexuality:- in a dream, in the sense of feeling desire for someone else- most often of the opposite sex - is a basic primeval urge for closeness with that person. It is as though we are searching for a part of ourselves that we have lost, The other character in the dream represents the closest we can get to that part. If we are a fully integrated human being we would have no need for sex with someone else, but for most of us we have a desire to be united with everything which is not part of our own ego.Such a dream, which highlights the feelings we are capable of having,provides information to enable us to understand our own needs.

If you wife is insecure don't tell her, but if she a strong lady show her this and tell her.

Answer 5

Hey...you can't control your dreams. It's really not your fault. I understand that you may compare your girlfriend to the imaginary girl in your dream...but dreams fade fast. Soon, you'll forget all about what the "girl" looked like, and things will be back to normal.

I once had a dream that Lionel Ritchie gave me a pearl necklace. I had a crush on him for about a year later.

If you're afraid of what your girlfriend might say...just don't tell her. It's just a dream...a figment of your imagination. Nothing big...it's not like you can "date" that girl.

You can keep that girl in your imagination for a little while...and then get rid of her.

Answer 6

So, let me get this straight. You had a wet dream--big deal--and now you think that you've cheated on your gf and that she is less attractive because of some fantasy girl. That is so stupid. Stop overthinking this and just be glad that you have a real in-the-flesh woman that is with you and puts up with your foolishness.

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Answer 9

did you realize what a moist dream is? adult males have moist targets. it is even as a guy ejaculates in his sleep, frequently it is an illustration that puberty has all started. A moist dream is a sex dream, not a swimming dream.

Answer 10

I never told my ex about all the wet dreams I had about Annalise from Neighbours or Xena Warrior Princess, so I can't see why you should. Consider it a one night stand in your head...