I don't know what to do. The thing is I love my bf very much, we have been together for about a year. I really can't see myself without him but at the same time, I don't think he is for me. It is jus't the way he is, like I am into guys who show they care rather than say it but he is not good or into showing his feelings. We have talked about this and he always says he will try harder to but he doesnt' I don't think you can change a person. So I don't know what to do...I love my bf and want to be with him but I also would like a bf that is caring and shows his love for me just by doing little things.
2006-11-16 12:25:48 · 10 answers · asked by cutiepatootie179 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you know about the 5 Love Languages? It's possible he's saying "I love you" in ways that you aren't hearing, and if you only knew, you would be glad. Here's a couple of links:
2006-11-16 12:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already expressed your feelings to him on how you feel about this subject, so he does know, but if he doesnt want to at least try and do something to show you he loves you, then I dont see it ever happening. You really can't change a person. You fell in love with the person that he is, so the decision is on him if he wants things to change. If not, then it just wasnt meant to be.
2006-11-16 20:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard, i know how you feel, you feel less imporant then other things in his life, i wish i could tell you that he will change but thats not the case, i have been with my b/f for over 2 and a half years, and i still feel this way sometimes. whatever it may be, for me video games....ya so......you can not tell if he really cares all the time, but you can tell if he loves you, or if he does not love you. you also have to understand men are not like us, they have less emotional needs then women. and when we do feel like we are not getting enough time or affection, they dont agree they will fight till they are blue in the face, they dont have the power to understand us. The best thing i can say if the neglect is too much, then leave find someone else who will give ou the time you deserve to have.........good luck
2006-11-16 20:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by jessica d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him that you have tried to tell him what you need, and even though he says he will try harder, you are still feeling neglected. Let him know that you feel you just need some space to decide on what is really best for you. Take a break and move out if you live together. Wait for him to come crawling back. If he doesn't, then you know why he wasn't expressing himself. If he says he really wants to try again, let him know that you will let him try but you are still moving out, and if he can't make you feel like a woman who is loved and needed, then it's just not worth waiting around for.
2006-11-16 20:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by cbr♥fox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, I bet a million dollars that you're very young. You don't want to leave him because you're used to be with him. You know that he isn't for you and if youre asking this is because you know it's the best for you. Do what's best. There are many guys out there. Don't be with him if he isn't the kind of guy you want for you. You'll find the right guy. Now, you're just afraid of leaving him cause you're used to be with him, and change is something that scares everybody
2006-11-16 20:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people cant help being who they are. Sometimes it takes something drastic for them to change. In his case, could be tomorow could be ten yrs from now. But you need love and affection, not ten yrs from now, but now in your present . So, are you willing to wait to see if he'll come around or do you want to go out there and find what you need.
2006-11-16 20:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are stating your needs(which are perfectly normal) to your BF, and he just does not get it, then you need to move on.
My ex-girlfriend was very much in love with me, but being a 1st generation Chinese, she also just did not "get it".
Don't waste you precious time on earth with people not deserving of you...
2006-11-16 20:32:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is where maturity comes in. You need to make a decision based on either how you feel, or what you know is best for your future happiness.
2006-11-16 20:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he would like to show you one little thing to express his feelings toward you.
2006-11-16 20:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by bullet head 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EITHER U ACCEPT IT OR U DONT
2006-11-16 20:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋