he goes to see this daughter and the mother is there and she still love him and i think that he is cheating because he never came home at five before and when i did not know that was his daughter because he been telling me that that was not his and now i think he is haing sex with her what should i do about this situation? please help me because i try talking and he don't want to talk to me so what should i do?
2006-11-16 12:19:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he doesnt even want to talk to you why are you with him? Have some self respect and dump him.
2006-11-16 12:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jumping to conclusions when you don't know exactly whats going on will make you look more like a fool then if he actually was cheating. Your a female, your trying to tell me that you can't find out if he is cheating or not? The only way you are going to have your mind at ease is one... ask if you can go with him when he goes to see his baby and if he doesn't feel comfortable with you coming inside suggest you will sit outside. If this is something he is uncomfortable about in the first place... meet him in the middle. Try to make it sound like you want to see his baby and because it is a part of his life you would like to have contact with this child so it can get to know you as well, because you two do have a relationship. Think girl think.... you'll figure it out. Good Luck!!
2006-11-16 20:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you are in this situation. My honest opinion though is that he should stick with the first person that he had a commitment with. Not that means anything anymore but... his child should mean more to him than any relationship or girlfriend. Idealy, the childs mother should be his only "only". Butchya know... things don't work like that anymore. People cheat, then they cheat on the people that they cheated with in the first place. It's a vicious cycle. If you want to have a serious relationship, you just have to be serious.
2006-11-16 20:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by Elise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I always found this to be funny but it could work when he comes home smell is cock. You could also tell him that you want to go with him and if he puts up a fight then you may have some thing to on with this. If he Say's yes then when you go be so so so nice to him like say thing thank you honey and say God I love you all the stuff that would burn her a,s,s to the point she will say same thing wrong and just might let the cat out of the bag
2006-11-16 20:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this guy. I'm not saying he's cheating— but if he lied and said his daughter wasn't his and then you found out it actually was, then it's best not to be with this particular guy.
I'm telling you, if you stay with him you'll be on an emotional rollercoaster. Chances are he could be getting a bootycall from the baby mama! Best to let it be and leave him.
2006-11-16 20:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can not stop a father from seein his child so.. there really is no way around this women, other then leaving the relationship if you truly beileve he is cheating. A huge red flag is he wont talk about it, when a man wont talk he is hideing somethin, ask to go with him when he goes to see his child, see how he acts around this women
2006-11-16 20:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by jessica d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with him, even if he doesn't want to. It sounds like you may be making the conversation hostile. Just make him a nice dinner and have a discussion there.
Explain to him your worries, but listen to him. Don't let your tone get very excited or hostile, and use "I" messages. "I feel that I don't see you know..." It's less confrontational.
In the end, you need to look at why exactly you think he's cheating. Obviously there's more to this story.
2006-11-16 20:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not a good situation at all...
If he is going to see his daughter then you can't stop it, but ask him why he has to go there and why can't she come over to his house? also if he doesn't even know if this is his child he needs to go get a DNA test. If he still says he has to go over there then you know that something is going on.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-16 20:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by calcalmr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not married to him, let him go. The child would benefit from having both her parents together. He's not the right man for you and you'll find someone much better.
2006-11-16 20:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he probably is. As long as he has a child with her then the other girl will be around.
2006-11-16 20:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋