I am engaged to a great guy...but theres one thing i am a jealous person.He has alot of friends that are women...and everytime he talks to them i get upset.( probably because i was cheated on all the time) I was never this jealous before I met him. I really want to be with him, he is the love of my life..but i am slowly losing him due to my jealousy.
Please help me!
thanks
2006-11-16 12:18:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jealously, is caused by a lack of self confidence. Admittedly, your past experience has led to this.
You need to trust him more. He isn't one of your former boyfriends.
He picked you, asked you to marry him, none of the others did, I'm assuming. He wants you, no one else.
Don't lose him, because you are unsure of yourself. Tell yourself, that you must be worthy of this guy, or he wouldn't have asked you go be his wife.
What happened in the past, is dead and buried. Now you are on the threshold of a new life with him.
When he talks to those other women, be there, by his side, join in the conversation. You are a couple now, act like it.
Get to know the other women in his life, make them your friends too, once you get to know them, and they you, you will have little cause to be jealous again.
2006-11-16 12:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing but I am not engaged. It's soooo hard not to be jealous it's human nature. But if he is trustworthy then try your best to trust him. He proposed to you for a reason, I don't think he would if he didn't want to be with you. U probably feel this way b/c u have been cheated on before. Try not to let that get in the way of your relationship. Sorry I know this isn't great advice, but just try.
2006-11-16 12:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is natural... we are all jealous when it comes to our significant others. Don't feel bad about that.. just don't let it get in the way of what could be an excellent future together. You as a person need to move on from your past. Don't let your exes ruin your relationship, they aren't worth it. If you REALLY do trust this guy, then you have to get used to the fact that he will be around other women. Speaking from experience on the other side.. my best friend is a guy, and it's awful when he dates a girl who hates me because I'm female... When you get the urge to say something out of jealousy, ask yourself if there is really anything to be upset about...if he isn't dishonest he doesn't deserve to be treated like he is... good luck =)
2006-11-16 12:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Neville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him! If he never cheated on you, and he has asked you to marry him, clearly he only has eyes for you. Embrace his female friends, ask them to do things with both of you, that way you can see that there's nothing to worry about. It's a good thing for him to have them because if he wants to suprise you with something special he can get their point of view and advice.
When you start to feel jelousy coming on just remember, he chose you! Take a breath, relax, tell him to have fun, and just know that everything is going to be okay.
2006-11-16 12:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself, that he chose to marry YOU. Not the women he speaks to. Their his "friends" and nothing more. You have to trust him, otherwise, you guys will lose contact with each other more and more every second.
Don't be jealous, why should you be? ...He chose to marry you and only you.
Hopefully, I've been a great help!
2006-11-16 12:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by AllGuysLuv2Want All GrlsLuv2Hate 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to come to terms with the hurt your exes caused you. if this guy is NOT a cheat'in man, then you totally need to give him a little slack. How would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot??
2006-11-16 12:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's not cheating and you believe that, then you have to let it go. trust me. i have lost several guys becaus i couldn't trust them, and i know it is easier said than done, but you have to do it or at least try to make an effort before it is too late.
2006-11-16 12:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this one is a nonetheless one, in my view i think of he should not be asserting issues like "i pass over you" to their lady acquaintances, it relatively is no longer approximately lack of self belief, yet approximately looking after what's yours. placed obstacles, supply admire to get admire.
2016-10-15 15:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun i have the same problem, i told a conceler person and they recomended to read this book called jealousy. it really helps
2006-11-16 12:21:36 · answer #9 · answered by sweet-candie-girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to trust him! It's part of love.
2006-11-16 12:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋