I am invited to thanksgiving day dinners or spend x-mas day with friends, but I sit back holding in tears, because it hurts so much to see how familys come together and are happy and close, and I wish that I had that. Now that I have childern of my own, I celerbrite it with them, but its not the same, what can I do to forget the passed and move on? By the way my mother should have never had kids.
2006-11-16 12:06:37 · 8 answers · asked by Diana J 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you know the pain of not having close family get-togethers, keep that in mind when you're spending the holidays with your children. By making the holidays festive and fun for them, you will also enjoy the days. You cannot change the past, but you CAN change the way you celebrate this year and future years! Give yourself and your children the kind of holidays that you dreamed of having. Be thankful that you have children, and friends to spend the holidays with...unfortunately many people have no one at all. When you sit down to holiday dinners...look around at your blessings (children and friends) then remember the military people who will be away from their families this year. The best way to lose the pain of the past is to find joy in the present. Godspeed. And may your holidays from 2006 on be blessed
2006-11-16 12:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should go to a homeless shelter and help serve the homeless Thanksgiving Dinner. Then you will see and appreciate what you have right in front of you. You have your children, a warm home, food, and friends who want to spend the holidays with you. Quit dwelling on the past and focus on the future. Make sure your children have a wonderful holiday season, so that they won't think like this about you when you they get older. You have a family, you and your kids are your family. Helping with the homeless or volunteering at a nursing home where are elderly whose families have put them in there and forgot about them. They would be thrilled to have a friend like you and your children. You could make some elderly persons holiday very happy. Think about it!!
2006-11-16 21:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by Bren 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember that the holidays are about being with loved ones. And sometimes our friends are closer to us than family. We all tend to have a few great friends that are like family. Maybe at some point you can do the big holiday dinner & have everyone over to your home.
2006-11-16 20:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Kammaka2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make new memories and put the old ones in a closet in your mind. Right now you are allowing the shadows of your past to cloud the happiness of your present. Then when you look back your memories will be tainted. Accept the past for what it was.
And then give your children the christmas you never had.
You know they see your sadness and it makes their joy less.
Do it for your children. Embrace it with all your heart. Make memories to replace the old ones.
2006-11-16 20:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just enjoy the holidays with your kids look at your kids if they make you happy you should be happy
2006-11-16 20:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have no expectations, and appreciate everything positive that happens anyways, you'll love it that way, Depression happens when you do the opposite.
2006-11-16 20:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by million$gon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your parents to come over and other family
2006-11-16 20:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-16 20:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋