What do I do father says he going to pick up son then call and cancels?

Question

He calls and says I'am picking up the baby on so day., when the day comes he calls and cancells and ask me to call him and tell him its okay.

Answer 1

Don't schedule your life around what he says.

Answer 2

Reading the two answers before mine I can tell you the first using the words"at least" is wrong. If you use at least then you get the least. The second answer "don't schedule your life around him" is good advice for every expectation.

Breaking one's word expecially with a child is breaking a heart.
This father doesn't feel for anyone except what is going on in his world at the moment. He makes no plans doesnt' train himself in keeping his word and his faults mount and mount.

It is natural for the mother to want the child to be involved with his father. I think a way to cure yourself of disappointment and (possibly him of his poor consideration habits for others) is to take the ball out of his court so you're not the patsy. I suggest two ways and maybe you can think of others without being at wits end where you're in confusion and despair, . Anger comes from trying the same thing over and over and waiting is such to cause it. Don't get even Get ideas. Here are two strategies you might try:
1. Plan something for you and your child outside the home for the time "Dad" is supposed to be over. Have your outer clothing on and be by the door. At the exact moment he should be there if you don't hear a knock on the door, get out of the house and wait 2-5 minutes. If you don't see him LEAVE. Go out and do your plans knowing you had no expectations.

2. You say the time and day you are giving him to see the child.
He will object. Say you have to take the child to the doctor at that time or a show and you already have tickets. Take the time he suggests and say that time is available the following week. Put the clout (ball) in your court. Don't let him win on this especially if the last date wasn't kept.
Whatever you say you have to do that time with the child DO IT so he doesn't find you at home.
It's a woman's programming to want to give in. And a man's to break his promises. BREAK HIS HABIT of not showing. YOU MIGHT WANT TO TAKE IT TO COUNSELING to settle whether he will get option of saying when and where. BE STRONG AND CIVIL AND CALM AND CREATIVE. You may find a whole new way of evolving with your child. Don't let anyone ride over you (and your child) with weak and broken promises.
God bless you both. Give the baby a big hug and kiss from me.

Answer 3

Don't tell the baby (child) that he is coming until he shows up. That way the baby won't know about the possibility of seeing the father and therefore he/she won't be disappointed.
That is what I had to do and it worked out pretty well. If the child is old enough to ask when he/she will see the father tell him/her you don't know and you will have to play the waiting game.

Answer 4

Another fine reason for the use of condoms! I I'm not talking about your child, I'm talking about you and you X.

I bet you wished you knew about condoms before you got pregnant.

I guess you will be offended by my answer and report me because you can't take it out on your baby-daddy. But if my answer sets you on the right path, it was worth it.

Answer 5

Awwww...please don't tell your child any more that his dad is coming until he actually shows up. Tell him he's destroying the childs trust, hopefully dad will grow up and take some responsibility. Good luck.

Answer 6

not to eyll and all but you should have made plans. well at least a backup plan just incase something like this happend, which in this case is now. you should not have to rely on your father. you have to rely on yourself sometimes. Be RESPONSFUL! tell him that its ok, but you would rather do it your self.

Answer 7

at least he calls