i have notised that when my step mother babysits she pays more attention to one baby more than the others. the kids range from 0-6. and there are about 8 of them. 5 of them are over 4years of age and 1 is .5yearold and 2 1yearolds. i have notised that my step mother pays more attention to this one 1 yearold more than any other child and almost ignored the others. granted the older one are ok as long as a adult is around but the other 2 young ones need to have her watching out more. am i arong to tell her to spread her attention out more?
2006-11-16 12:00:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why is she watching 8 children at once?!? I have four, with twins on the way and I am struggling at this point. With 8 children under six years old that is a job way to hard, and there is no way any of those children are getting enough attention. Consider 2-3 babysitters at a time.
Good Luck!
2006-11-16 12:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anne L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is carring for 8 children at one time, I recommend her to decreasing the amount. Especially for safety and behavioral/emotional development.
She might be favoring and that is a concern she will deny most likely.
This 1 year old is still in the "babystage" as she might call it. She might feel the other children don't need as much attention or care. Whether that is her "parenting" or her way of being brought up.
Either way, I would cautiously bring it up to her that you notice she likes this 1 year old and ask what she likes to do with the other children; why? etc. If she can not say a lot of things or none at all other than feeding them or putting on a movie, then throw a few more questions of why not go to the park or take so and so here or there? Allow her to figure it out for herself as you are directing it with questions.
I don't know who all these children are (Not sure if yours or just parents allowing your step mother to babysit), but 8 is too many to babysit in most states. I would also be concerned about their safety and development if they are your children.
2006-11-16 17:44:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be careful. You didn't mention if she was watching your kids as a favor (free) or for money. You also didn't mention her upbringing.
Watching that many kids is a lot of work. Maybe she thinks that she is distributing her attention equitably, on an as need basis.
If you want to bypass conflict, get someone else to watch the kids. If that is not an option, (tactfully) mention your concerns and find out what her perspective is. Listening to older people, notions of child rearing have changed a lot in 60 years.
2006-11-16 12:11:20 · answer #3 · answered by seaportma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can competently watch eight children at the same time in this day and age - especially at their ages. Be careful - she's your step-mother and probably wouldn't be doing this at all if she didn't need the money - but a child could be seriously injured or even die.
She's probably breaking a host of laws by having this many children at once and God forbid there should be a tragedy.
Good luck - this is a tough one.
2006-11-16 12:07:09 · answer #4 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's too many kids too close in age to be watched by one person. I use to work at a daycare center we had 3 to 4 workers for 12-15 kids. Yes even at daycare there were certin kids some workers were closer to it's natural. It's fine as long as the other kids are not being neglected. Everyone has a Favorite THEY would be lying if they said they did not,. it's importnant thou that all the kids are watched feed and cared for.
2006-11-16 12:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because if she is a babysitter that is her job to pay attention to all the kids because kids get into anything and the climb on top of things and the can easily fall or get poisoned so i feel you a good job.
2006-11-16 12:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by peanut 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No they are her grandchildren to and very young and need to be supervised it is so easy for them to for hurt
Young ones are curious and they do not know the dangers of what can be there in the house just that it looks interesting,
2006-11-16 12:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sound like step mom is breaking the law in regards to adult to kid ratio for day care
2006-11-16 12:09:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The one she watches most probably causes the most trouble and thats why.
2006-11-16 12:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by nukeYOU 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋