We rarely call each other, i rarely send him text mesages and so does he but whenever he is around he is so sweet, he cooks dinner for me, & almost does the romantic stuff but we never exchange i love you`s is this normal? tomorrow he`s leaving for a conference, he just send me an sms letting me know he`ll be back on saturday but prior to this he already told me about this and yet i had a thought doesn`t he supposed to call me? his cell phone has a load of course and besides it`s monthly bill not a prepaid so there is no reason to be thrifty with regards to load. Are men really like that? Or is there something i need to improve in our relationship? i am supposed to be expressive with how i feel but since i`ve been single for so many months & just recovered from the past i feared of showing affection too much. But i love him and yet it`s difficult to say the words, & besides he never does says it either only he just showed it. Is this normal?
2006-11-16 12:00:00 · 10 answers · asked by richhter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people - not just men - are afraid to say those words in case it means they are locked into a commitment before they are ready for it: these people are sometimes 'commitmentphobic'. Others would say that when you love someone, you can't NOT say the words - they just burst out of you as though they have a life of their own!
It sounds to me like you are the latter type and that having to hold back on what comes naturally to you is making you miserable. It also sounds to me as though there is more worrying you than just his failure to tell you he loves you: do you think that perhaps he doesn't?
When he returns from his conference, you should pick your time and just ask him where the relationship is going. No arguments, no confrontations - just a nice, calm and friendly chat. Don't be afraid to do this just because of a past hurt - you have a right to know what is happening within your own relationship!
2006-11-16 12:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure. that is from a communicate with a number of my older friends (i'm 18). We began speaking about relationships and once you should assert i love you. one in all my guy friends suggested that he does not say i love till he fairly knew the lady a minimum of a three hundred and sixty 5 days so as that she does not get the incorrect theory or be pushed into putting forward it. for my area, 6 months is kinda quickly. He will be wondering that. a lot quicker?!? As you will see that you're literally not with those adult males anymore. They obviously did not propose in the journey that they suggested it straight away. If it bothers you a lot, why do not you ask him? do not rigidity him yet ask him the position the relationship is going.
2016-11-24 23:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some guys are shy to express their real feelings about girls. They sometimes leave the little things inside that they should let out now and then, and then they all just kinda build up. It really depends on how long you have been together. It sounds like it's been for a while. Maybe he's just afraid that you don't love him back. Or maybe you should just tell him yourself. I think you should be expressive with yourself. To some extent, tell him how you feel.
2006-11-16 12:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who knows, what he is thinking, only he does. He could just be waiting for you to say the "I love you" first.
Some guys are terrified of saying those words, that's jus tthe way we are. So you, if you want to hear him say it, will have to say it first.
Otherwise, you will both go along as you are. It's time to sit down and talk about your relationship, and find out, if he is yours or not.
2006-11-16 12:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal!
Saying, "I love you," can be difficult, primarily when you truly mean it.
Love is better expressed through the eyes, touch, or other actions (such as cooking dinner and romantic stuff!), though you should definitely say it every now and then.
Just tell him and wait for the response! <3
2006-11-16 12:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i said it first to my bf and it took several months for him to say it back to me......
i would say on the whole alot of blokes steer away from saying it as they don't know what sort of reaction they will get.
if i were you- id bite the bullet and say it to him. after-all, whats the worst that could happen??? if he brakes up with you over it- he couldn't have liked you much in the first place....
good luck!!
2006-11-16 20:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard to say it the first time. I guess the fear is if he says it and doesnt hear it back. Bite the bullet and tell him you love him
2006-11-16 12:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by ugly little hate machine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem to me that he has any real intentions toward you.
I'm sorry to be so blunt but he is having his cake, and eating it too.
You can do much better for yourself.
2006-11-16 12:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by monika 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actions so speak louder than words! Would you rather he treated you like cr*p but then told you he loved you??
2006-11-17 00:08:30 · answer #9 · answered by Megan xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that crap ain't normal fix it!!! You know how.
2006-11-16 12:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋