2 1/2 years ago I met a guy in my building who was nice and friendly. We became friends and then I found out he is married. The his wife had a baby. I became a member of his "family" he said. He came and went regularly in my life. I enjoy their child. Tonight I found out that he is RELIGIOUS SIKH INDIAN. I am not and could never be that religion. He wants me to live side-by-side with his wife who I don't always get along with. They give me the "silent treatment " when they dis approve of something I have done etc etc. I do not approve of their behaviour in some things, especially if the man is having an affair with me and telling me I am family and "Aunite" to his daughter and we are one big happy family. Sure for him but not for me!!! Can a ORTHODOX SIKH MAN do these things? Is it not against his religion? Has he not sinned??? Is he fooling himself? I donot talk to these people anymore as they are childish for me and always taking from me in some way...my intelligent ideas etc.
2006-11-16 11:53:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I just wanted to point out that Sikhism has nothing to do with this, we do what's right. But like all religions, their are people who break the rules.
And the auntie part, that's normal, well since I'm Indian, all my mother's friends etc. I call auntie, and uncle, it's just family ties are close with indians.
And why would you have an affair with a married man? What are you thinking?
2006-11-18 15:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by punjabi007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know anything about that religion, but I can see that you are hurt and confused. It is not an honest and right thing that this man does in regard to your relationship. He is not treating you right and he is not treating his wife right. If he has sinned in your eyes then YES he has sinned and maybe you need to walk away from this man and find someone who will cherish and respect your love.
2006-11-16 19:58:45 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. He is a player and it may be that his religion approves. Not knowing much about Hinduism, I can't speak for sure on that, but that is a hunch, since the wife seems to approve.
2006-11-16 19:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by meoorr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you crazy??? You should have more respect for yourself, even tho he has none for you, his wife or his family. It makes me crazy when I read of women getting themselves into situations like this. Get out, cut him out of your life. Hell, cut the whole screwed up lot out of your life. You are better than than.(I know that because you asked this question)
2006-11-16 20:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by monkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not bother with them... if they question you , just say you have cultural incompatibiltitites. Thye need toe expand their family with soemone of their own culture. You just wish to be a friend only.
The middle east, and the far east, is full of strange things....
2006-11-16 20:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The issue is not whether he has sinned, it's whether you feel comfortable with this situation, and it seems like you've answered your own question. You don't have to do anything you don't want to.
2006-11-16 19:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by ccrider 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, all religion aside, you need to get out of that situation. It sounds emotionally toxic.
2006-11-16 19:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not know the answer to your questions, but good for you for getting away from them.
2006-11-16 20:00:38 · answer #8 · answered by Sarasvah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF? And what are you? Mother Theresa?
Get real!!! That is not a question about spirituality, you need to take your sour grapes on the Jerry Springer Show.
Sin Verguenza!!!
2006-11-16 19:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This man is not the problem-you are.
2006-11-16 20:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Marc 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋