I met this girl at the gym, she works there, then we starting to talk, i told her how feel about her, then she said she is not ready for a b/f cause of school,homework and work, then i ask her questions to get know her, i ask her if she ask me questions, she said she dont any questions for me, can someone help, i want to be her b/f but for right now i just her know that i am there for her when she is ready for a b/f
2006-11-16 11:42:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that - "I really like you, and would like to date you. I understand that you're not ready for anything right now, and I'm willing to deal with that. But when you're ready to start seeing people again, maybe you could call me?"
Another option would be to try group outings or casual settings, and slowly... like a cup of coffee one week, then a couple weeks later, maybe coffee and pie?
At the same time, you can't put your life on hold for her. Let her know that you're interested, and then the ball's in her court. But don't take yourself out of the game - she might meet someone else, you might meet someone else, or (and I hope this isn't true, but it has to be said) she could just be saying that to you because she's not interested, bnut doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
The best you can do is be honest, and let her decide from there.
2006-11-16 11:48:04 · answer #1 · answered by idatedashton_didyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JT, leave well enough alone! She told you flat out that she's not ready and there is no approach that you can take to change that. Respect her decision and accept that she's just the chic that works at the gym. Maybe when she is ready for a BF she'll come looking for you. BTW, how long have you known her? I mean are we talking just a few weeks, months, or years?
2006-11-16 11:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to just talk to her don't mention your self at all then slowly start talking about the things you want her to know about you. sooner or later you can ask questions about her and she will feel comtrouble answering them. she will let you know if she want you to be her boyfriend or not. THE NUMBER ONE THING WOMEN DONT LIKE DURING A RELATIONSHIP IS BEING PUSHED INTO DOING SOMETHING.
2006-11-16 11:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by §▐Your Dream Guy▐§ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she is seriously just blowing you off and doesn't want to even to get to know you. But giving her the benefit of the doubt, I would wait a little while and see if anything changes. If not move on.
2006-11-16 11:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh? you lost me after school, homework, and work......that was way confusing! leave her be, she apparently doesn't want to be your gf. she's just not that interested in you. if you were really her type she totally would of jumped at the chance, i know...i am a girl.
2006-11-16 11:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by michelle b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just back off a little. let her come to you instead of the other way around. talk when you see her but dont push her any
2006-11-16 11:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by AliceA. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patience is what u need. she probably just gotout of a bad relationlaship. give her time and shell come through. do little things for her like buying her breakfast, opening the door, letting her talk more than you, etc. just give her time.
2006-11-16 11:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by amgs234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience man Patience.
2006-11-16 11:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude sounds like she isn't into you. Just talk casual to her. Don't force her to have a conversation with you, man, that isn't cool.
2006-11-16 11:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be too clingy...play it smooth... try the hard to get method because this girl doesnt seem to be falling for you... dont try to get to know her,just let it come naturally... hope everything works out for ya!
2006-11-16 11:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by sugar kiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋