2006-11-16 11:41:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pray a lot.. Understand also that each person has their own attitude problems that they need to solve and be glad that it is not you who have done that thing to other people. You will never know if this person is so bothered, can't sleep well because of the bad things he did. Hope this helps. God bless
2006-11-16 11:46:01 · answer #1 · answered by justurangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know what?, the hardest part of living is to say I'm sorry even if you know that you're not the only one to blame for what happen but if you really do love the person there's always a part of you which is very much willing to forgive and forget.
Sometimes we think we are right. Try to look back at the situation and think what makes this person do it. What triggers him to do something like that. Maybe there is something that you did that provoke him to do you harm. If so try to accept that you have contribution on his action then it will be easy for you to forgive.
Although in some cases we know that there are people who really overkill someone just to make them feel better and it happens to me. As a friend i just ask her a certain request to please not to communicate with my BF which she claims flirting with her. Know what she did? she send it to him which really got my BF sooo angry with me. It was just a little favor and all i was thinking was that she will understand coz we're friends. But she didn't i don't know why she was so angry. If she will only look at the situation she will realize that she was just really over reacting. Still i did say i'm sorry, she never accept it and the surprising part was that she tell the whole world (through her blog) that i'm a psycho, that there's a monster inside me that wants to come out and so many bad words she really mean. After that i wish her happiness and say Goodbye, this time it's for real.
that situation really gives me a lot of pain, many sleepless nights thinking how can i at least try to win my BF back.
2006-11-16 20:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always forgive NO MATTER WHAT. The reason being is that you only recieve as much forgiveness as you give. After you forgive it is up to you if you want to continue to have them in your life or not. It is up to you! Good Luck!!
2006-11-16 19:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT depends on the circumstance.... If the other party is sorry for what they did, not because you found out but because they really wished they didn't do it and they wished they didn't hurt you ... Then time is necessary for the hurt to lessen. You might always remember what happened, but if you can weigh the hurt against the good time to come in the future - forgiveness will come...
2006-11-16 19:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by ♥☆ Star ☆♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in the other persons shoes, if you think they really feel bad about what they did, then that might help you forgive. Even if you cant fully forgive them, remember they have probably learned from their mistake.
2006-11-16 19:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mean you can't forget what they did. No matter what. I think you can forgive them, but you can't forget what they've done to you. Yes that's possible. Just because you've forgiven someone for something doesn't mean you have to associate with that person. If you forget, you'll only get hurt again.
2006-11-16 19:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell God. Tell him Exactly how you feel. (If you wonder how graphic you can get, look at what Job said in the book of Job.) Then tell Him if He wants you to feel differently, He'll need to make a miracle in your heart. Then see what happens. It is now out of your control and you don't have to worry about it (trying to forgive). This would be a bigger miracle than physical healings and stuff. See if God can do it.
2006-11-16 19:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was in that situation about 5 months ago, and it was a kid that was my best friend and he did something awful and i was never going to forgive him, but then he relized to me how sorry he was and to tell you the truth i forgave him and we started dating, and i havnt regretted once for forgiving him, u may not be in a similiar situation, but ur heart will end up telling yo what to do
2006-11-16 19:46:40 · answer #8 · answered by megan =] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what you feel is right. follow your heart. If you WANT to forgive, then forgive. forgiving doesnt mean forgetting
2006-11-16 19:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by AliceA. 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what they did. You have to ask yourself whether what they did was so bad that it's not worth the person who did it. If the answer is yes than ask yourself how you would feel if you were the one who didi that bad thing.
2006-11-16 19:44:16 · answer #10 · answered by Totoru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋