His father didnt sign the birth certificate.
He doesnt have a job
Hes abusive to me
He dosent want to get a job, he'd rather stand on the cornner.
he older than me but sounds like I have another kid for a babydaddy
2006-11-16 11:36:47 · 11 answers · asked by traci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i wouldn't trust the father either. so basically i don't think ur doing anything wrong. i mean come on if all those things u said are true then he doesn't even care about his family
2006-11-16 11:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pretty "N" Simple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how much time? The key word that I see is "abusive." The father must not be alone with your son. And the moment he acts out on being abusive, with you or with the boy, the visit is over. The more words I write here, the more I'd like to see you in a different state from the father. Maybe a different country!
2006-11-16 11:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does the father really care too much about seeing his son, doesn't sound like it...with having children comes responsibility and he sure doesn't have any of that even if is is older (you have more sense in right and wrong).
"He'd rather stand on the corner" does that mean he is a male prostitute and what kind of values and abuse can he give your son (I'd fight this in court till the day I died).
SORRY daddy or not he would have to grow up first before I would let him see my child.
2006-11-16 11:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son need to identify with a man.
That is how he will know himself, as a man.
If you stop your son from seeing him, no matter what your opinion is of his father, your son will not develop his own life properly.
It sounds like your son's father has a lot of problems. But that does not mean, your son will have them. If you prevent your son from seeing his dad because of his problems, your son will want to be even more like him in the future to fill the emptiness he will feel, without him in his life.
Your son needs to see his father.
Providing his father does not abuse him, think about the right of your son, instead of the right of his father. That may help you get through this a little better. Stop thinking of his father and think about your son.
2006-11-16 11:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcitywoman2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear your in such a prediciment. I know the father sounds crummy but your son needs the love of both parents. I don't think you should punish your son because his father is a failure. You should take some legal action here get a DNA test and have him start paying that child support through the courts. Maybe if you do it that way he will start being a man and taking care of his responsibilities.
If the courts hang jail time over his head I am sure he will step up to the plate.
Good Luck
2006-11-16 11:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-29 05:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BOTH of you stay away from this loser even if you have to move to another city. You'll never get a dime from him, and, more importantly, he's a rotten example of a man your son should look up to. You should establish paternity so when the loser drops dead your son will get his Social Security benefit - assuming Loser ever worked.
This is why Welfare was created. Use it to get an education. It will benefit both you and your son - and you have the rest of your life to pay the income taxes to pay it back.
And have the bstrd arrested for knocking you around.
2006-11-16 11:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't mistreat your son, then you should let your kid see him. i grew up without a father, and it lowered my self esteem and confidence tremendously. i wished my father was more involved with my life so i can be a more happier and positive person. do what is best for your son.
2006-11-16 11:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a kid needs his father but it depends on how the father treats him
2006-11-16 11:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is HIS FATHER, that's the father. Unless you think otherwise.
2006-11-16 12:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋