12 years ago my aunt and uncle went behind my families back and ordered the doctors to cut off my dads life support. Even tho they were not the next of Kin the doctors listened and did it. I dont know if there was money involved or not. They didnt go to his funeral and I've only talked them once or twice since. That was 8 years ago. Should i talk to them? should i even go see them? or should i just forget them? I know its a question for me to answer but im stuck so WHAT WOULD U DO?
2006-11-16 11:34:45 · 21 answers · asked by Lil Kaluha5555555 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It gets tricky because i am my dads only BLOOD daughter but my sister wasn't treated any differently then me. My aunt and Uncle always hated my mom, and sister and loved me. My dad wasnt a veggy he was active and would laugh when he was tickled he even would mouth I LOVE YOU, so he wasnt brain dead other wise i would understand. I think there was money involved b/c 1 they r millionaires, 2. I've never really heard of a doctor who would do somethin like this without it
2006-11-16 11:41:34 · update #1
They have called for me but I wasnt ready to talk and they only send me christmas and birthday cards with money. Thats about it
2006-11-16 11:44:51 · update #2
IT WAS 8 YEARS AGO NOT 12 , I was 12 when it happened
2006-11-16 11:45:21 · update #3
As hard as it may be, you need to forgive them.
Food for thought:
1) Do you know that your father would have survived and come out of his coma?
2) Why do you think there was money involved; no one would pay them to cut life support.
3) How do your siblings and mother feel?
Forgive them and be the better person--you can't undo the past, but you can control the future.
2006-11-16 11:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them how you feel about what they did if you haven't already. Always do your best to forgive people, but if your relationship with them is going to be toxic, I wouldn't try to have any kind of relationship with them if I were you. You don't need to forget them to not have them in your life.
I do hope you've talked to a counsellor about this situation somewhere along the line to help you deal with your grief. I also think that if your family members were not entitled to cut off your dad's life support, you might want to consider taking legal action against the doctors. I would talk to the rest of your family about this.
Good luck to you. Sorry about your loss.
2006-11-16 11:41:07 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a lawsuit to me. If the doctors took him off of life support and they were not next of kin...something sounds fishy to me. Sounds like malpractice, but the statute of limitations might have run out...not sure about that one though. It's a tough decision for you. Maybe if you talked with them and understood why, then you might be able to forgive. They may have done it to save you and your mom/siblings from debt and financial/emotional ruin. What was your dad's prognosis? If there was no way for him to recover then they did what was right, but only through communication with them will you ever be able to understand their actions and concerns. I would talk with them just for my own sanity and knowledge. Good luck and May God Bless.
2006-11-16 11:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were very young at the time this happened I assume. If I were you I would talk to everyone involved and draw my own conclusions from that. Everyone is going to have a different story and you should know all sides before making any judgments on anyone.
2006-11-16 11:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you is what the question should be.That must have been a very hard decision to make.And even more important is if you don't forgive others,neither will your heavenly Father forgive you.When you forgive them,I guarantee you will finally feel better about this.You have already lost your father,don't lose your aunt and uncle to.
2006-11-16 14:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the Bible it says to forgive and forget. It is the hardest thing that I have learned to do in life. Family means everthing thing to me. I have questions of doubt. Those who have hurt me physical and mental I talk to very little. I have forgave them. I still haven't forgot. I am just not going to step to there level. Life isn't fair and it hurts very bad. You will always have what if in the back of your mind. You will never know the answer. I wish you the best.
2006-11-16 11:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have cut off your fathers life support they must have had some sort of legal right. Maybe your dad left a living will somewhere.
Someone needs to do the right thing when loved ones are not able to end the suffering of the patient.
If you are not able to forgive them then don't - you both can continue your lives.
2006-11-16 11:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well thats a hard question!! it sounds like your auntie an uncle were trying to get rid of your dad by doing that but i cant really say cus i dnt no that 4 sure! but sumthin ent right about wot they did! maybe u shud talk 2 ur parents. u need 2 think about this one on your own. nobody else can really decide this for you.....except for you.....
2006-11-16 11:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I thought someone had done this to my Dad, I would work until my fingers bled to find out the truth. You will not have peace until you know the truth about it.
Good luck!
Hey maybe call one of the talk shows, Dr. Phil or Oprah (not Jerry!). Maybe they can help you!
2006-11-16 11:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT is really hard question!
From the one hand, it seems that you should forgive, because otherwise it is a sin, according to the Bible.
From the other hand, how can you forgive people who did that!
I know...it is easy to say when you do not experience that..
But, probably, you shouldn't ignore them that all...however, do not let them be in your life fully!
If something like that happened in my life I would probably hate those people all my life...
But you shouldn't....be better!
Forgive them!
2006-11-16 11:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋