What should I do (about my ex)?

Question

What should I do? I dumped my ex because I found out that he cheated on me....and I still want to be with him...b/c he's my first and I love him,but he told me he had a girlfriend now,but he doesnt do anything with her. Then he tells me I cant date, or do anything with nobody. Like he owns me, and we were together for almost 4 years. I mean I've gone through so much **** for him. Should I sacrifice more? It's not like I havent done anything with anybody else. I just dont want to break his heart. Even though he's broken mine. Im almost over him, but Im afraid Im making a BIG mistake. How do I know if he still has feelings for me? He's always jelous and he tells me that he is not a jelous person he used to tell me to stay home and do nothing,and he used to tell me who to hang out with,and that I always choose my friends over him. He is always putting me down. He always asks me if Im going to hang out with my boyfriend or something. I think I should just move on more but I dont know howto

Answer 1

Okay I no it is hard to do but you need to listen to me. I am going through the same thing so we can help each other... I just broke up with my girl and we where to be married in may,. Here is what you do it gets easy as the weeks go by. DO NOT TALK TO HIM AT ALL. no phone calls No text if he stops by do not answer the door let him know that he made a mistake but he gets to live with it the rest of his life you are the winner there are some many other guys that want to have someone that is honest loyal trusting and ready to really build a relationship. Your EX is trying to and is doing just what he wants CONTROL you and he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Do you want to share him with another women if you are saying No then move on he is a cheater . I have stop talking to mine and she is still trying and she wants to get married in may No talking. Let me know how this works for you I am here.....

Answer 2

Vanessa - read what you wrote! You see what is happening, but you don't listen to what you are writting!
#1 - He cheated on you (adultry)
#2 - He has a girlfriend
#3 - He "doesn't do anything with her"....what the heck does THAT mean??? Why does he have her? Does he think you are that dense?????
#4 - He tells you you can't date [Controlling SOB]
#5 - He says you are to avoid spending time with people other than yourself [is he afraid that they will talk you into sense?]
#6 - He expected you to do for him and now to sacrifice MORE
#7 - YOU are AFRAID of breaking WHO's???? heart????? Does he have one for YOU????? He has no heart, honey!
#8 - You think you are making a mistake by leaving a controlling individual. How can THAT be a mistake????
#9 - He still has feelings for you? What type of feelings? Sexual release? Someone to control? Are those the feelings he has toward you?
#10 - He's always jealous - DANGEROUS insecurity. Leads to many murders and abuse. Jealousy acted upon is DANGEROUS. A pinch is ok to keep loves interest - but not as a PRIMARY emotion!
#11 - He lies - tells you he is not a jealous person. He lies.
#12 - He wants you to stay at home and waste away? Go into fits of depression? Become lazy? Stagnate and not educate yourself? Burrow into a cave and die?
#13 - He tells you who to hang around with? What type of persons? Other women like yourself who have domineering mates? Other feeble people? Other depressed individuals? Persons he can control as well?
#14 - You have chosen your friends over him? If he were an emotionally stable, mature, confident individual then you would have not been pressed to find strong friends for yourself. He wants you to have friends so weak that he can dominate every moment you spend with them. Friends make you strong; he makes you weak. He prefers you weak. Friends are a threat to his dominerance.
#15 - He is always putting you down. Whether it's in private or in front of friends or strangers ----that is extreemly antisocial and disrespectful of not only you, but also of other people. When a person degrades another, that is an indication that he is self-centered, self-destructive and full of self-pride. The only way he can feel valuable and important is to knock you down. That is a 100% proof that he is not suitable for a relationship with ANY woman. Period.

Vanessa, only the person by the name of Vanessa can make Vanessa move her butt out the door. If you don't have the guts and self-preservation instilled in you, then go ahead and hand this jerk a gun and tell him to just shoot you like a worthless dog.

You KNOW you are a PERSON made by GOD that has REAL VALUE as a member of the HUMAN RACE, and NO ONE has any RIGHT to make you feel less than fully 100% HUMAN and WORTHY of LIFE. Of your OWN life! Get with a women's shelter to get the info on what to do to get your life completely cut off from his, get counseling since he has done some serious possible permanent mental damage on you. If you don't take care of your mind, then you will take his garbage with you to the next relationship,and that one will fail, too.

Find a new job, get a new apartment, get new bank accounts set up, cancell all credit cards that are tied in with him, get new credit going, do not leave a forwarding address with your current address. Individually contact your credit card companies for forwarding statements. Explain your situation in case they need to freeze some account you had with him to stop future charges.

Vanessa, begin working on this this weekend. Don't delay or you will lose your nerve. Now, step up to the plate....batter batter batter - hit that ball for a home run! Do it!!

Answer 3

Been through this already and trust. me he hasn't changed so move on and be content. Don't hurt your self you don't have to sacrifice anything for some guy who don't give a ****
about you

Answer 4

lol time table dates! i'm completely severe. like set up dates with each and every guy that asks you out and ascertain later in case you enjoyed any of them. it's going to shop issues below administration, and not finished chaos