he works night so I would feel safer with a dog around again.He would throw a fit if I brought one home with out asking.
2006-11-16 11:12:26 · 25 answers · asked by Dew 7 in Pets ➔ Dogs
A marriage is said to be 50/50. Mine is 100/100%. I never need permission. I'm an adult & so is he. He's gotten irritated when I surprise him w/a new pet. (we have several) But out of all, there's only 1 dog he isn't totally attached to. A male that I rescued. He hates everyone but me. My husband even walks them in the pouring rain with or for me.
Yours has no right to "let or not let" you do anything.
If you are looking for a particular breed, email me. I might be able to help you find one. Good luck!
2006-11-16 11:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've had other great suggestions - won't repeat any of those.
I'm sure that you've talked to him about how you feel. However, I think I'd try again & tell him how lonely I feel & how I don't feel completely safe on my own. He'll probably suggest that you get a new alarm system but at least you have to try.
Do you know anyone with a really, friendly, cute dog? Someone who works days & might let the dog come around to you for the day to keep you company? The dog would benefit & so would you.
The only other thing I can think of is to suggest getting a cat - maybe a Bengal, Devon Rex or Siamese ... one of the ones that everyone says is dog-like. Both my Bengal & my Siamese play fetch with me. The Siamese growls if anyone knocks the door. And Rico, the snow Bengal likes to go out for walks in his harness ... not quite the same as walking a dog as he doesn't believe in walking to heel & likes to jump on walls & walk at my height beside me.
Hope something good happens soon.
2006-11-16 15:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Solow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have a discussion with him, explaining just what you said. He isn't home nights, you'd feel safer with a dog around, as opposed to having a weapon in the house. Maybe if the both of you went to the local shelter and he was part of the decision, so both of you agreed on the type of dog. You don't mention if the last dog was yours , and he found himself the primary caretaker of the dog, hence his reluctance to get one. Or could it be a monetary thing, dogs do require shots, etc. I think as a couple you should be able to work out a compromise, so he won't feel the pet is a burden and taking attention away from him. Good luck!
2006-11-16 11:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by wq4you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to sit down with him and try to come to some sort of a compromise some how.Marraige is a 50/50 split.I wouldn't bring a animal home with out asking my hubby either. We both talk about things we want before we get them.Maybe a compromise could be the size of the dog ,where the dog sleeps when he is home , who's going to take care of the dog.Some people just don't like dogs ,so you both have to discuss options to come to some sort of a agreement.Good luck to you.Give him time,he'll come around.
2006-11-16 11:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by pitbullmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am I the only woman in the world who would tell a guy to take a HIKE if he didn't "allow" me to do something??? I hate it when people refer to their husbands as if they are their father, and the wife is three years old. You're an adult. Discuss the subject (since you both live in the home, he has a right to have a say)... but if the dog will be your responsibility... why would you "not be allowed" to have it? Isn't that why you moved out of your parents house in the first place? To be your own person??
2006-11-16 11:16:46 · answer #5 · answered by kittikatti69 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You know. I would actually go to the Humane Society and speak to them about fostering a dog. That way, you can have it both ways - you get your dog and you feel safe, but you don't actually own it. You are just assisting the Society with intergrating the dog back with humans so that it is more adoptable. Who knows, maybe your husband really wants a dog, but is still hurting from when you lost your pet 2 years ago.
2006-11-16 11:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mary W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husband absolutely refuses and you love dogs, why not get yourself a job at the local Humane shelter--where you can be around TONS of dogs all day? You could also volunteer there.
2006-11-16 11:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by zgraf 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think bringing home a dog without his agreeing to what you want to do is a good thing. However, I do think he should seriously consider your feelings and allow you to have one. After all, you are the one alone while he is working.You should sit down with him and explain how you feel, or do as my ex and i would do, and that is to write a little letter. It can be very effective and you get to speak your whole piece without interruptions. Good luck.
2006-11-16 11:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by "clutch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is make a deal with him maybe be he gets a new car and you get a dog. Or, you could give something up like something he hates for a dog. Hope this helps!
2006-11-16 11:18:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refuses to LET you???
I never let that stop ME! Course, I'm divorced, LOL!!!
I'd pick my dogs over a controlling man ANY day! The last man I dated whined "I think you like those DOGS more than me". I said "Yup, and they'll be here long after you are gone"! That was the last of him! Oh well, easy come easy go! Love me, love my dogs.
2006-11-16 14:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by whpptwmn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋