In my first marriage my wife mentally abused me . After 10 years , i simply ran away and got my divorce . I believe that it my right to be as happy as any other person . In my 2nd marriage , i caught my wife having affair with 2 guys at the same time. I divorced again. Now i am married again for the 3rd time . Where do i stand vis a vis my marriages and the bible ?
2006-11-16 11:04:53 · 22 answers · asked by avatar 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
God does not divorce you. When you come to Him every day for forgiveness of your sins then the sin is forgotten and He carries on with His love for you. As long as you are faithful to Him then He will be faithful to you. As for where you stand in the Bible? Heck even if you were wrong I believe the Christ forgives you. That's if you were wrong. When the Christ said you can only divorce your wife on account of adultery He was speaking to a number of Rabbi who were leaving their long lived wives for a much younger female than who they currently had in their bed. The Christ knew this! Jesus answered their question on what reason you could divorce your wife and they did not like it! They knew He was talking directly to them, for what they were doing in their private lives.
When your spouse, beats, rapes, abuses, and cheats you of your rights, when mental, physical, and other abuses are heaped upon you then you have every right to divorce that person.
Too many people use this statement from our Lord to keep their mates in check! Sadly to many pastors use it to keep people together in marraige.
My humble opinion is that you are quite well in standing with God's Holy Bible. But I say that with what little I know of you and your situation.
God's peace to your heart.
2006-11-16 11:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by the old dog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more important question is, where do you stand with God? Do you know Him? Do you know that you are His? Did you receive a transformation of nature? Is what Jesus did for you at the cross a personal thing? Is it close to your heart - or something that happened a long, long time ago on a hill far away that has no bearing on you, your life, and your choices?
If you have received the gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ, and you know that you are born again, then you are equipped with the the divine nature so that you can discern and know where you stand with God at all times. I can't search the Word of God for you. You have to search the Word and search your own heart and seek the Lord to know where you stand on this.
If your heart is a born again heart then 1 John 3:19-21 says it's your heart that will either condemn you or clear you before God. If your heart condemns you in your search, the Bible says that you have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous according to 1 John 2:1. You can't undo what's been done. But you can know if it was right or wrong in God's eyes, and if the Word of God brings light to your heart that you did commit an offense against God you can acknowledge that His way is the way of righteousness and that you did not walk in that way. You can turn from the way of unrighteous, and you can choose to live the rest of your life in the way that the Bible shows you is right from here on.
2006-11-16 11:30:00 · answer #2 · answered by Carol L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, hopefully the old adage is true, "the third time is the charm". Now let's see, you want to know where you stand on your 3rd, yes count them, one, two, three...three being the third. Now you are questioning it. Okay I can understand that the first two were not what a real woman is all about or should want to even be about but wow the third lady later you are just now starting to get a clue that you may pick the wrong women to marry.....Now you can fall on you knees in front of the Lord, and truly confess your sins, your mistakes and your lousy choice of women....the first two times, at least and pray like the devil, that your third wife is the keeper. And all past transgressions will be
forgiven by God and in the process of it all, you may even find peace and contentment once you unburdened your troubled soul.
2006-11-16 11:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by txflowerblossom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fine. Stop worrying about it. The divorce scripture in the bible is refering to the Jewish men who would grow bored with their wives, and wanted someone fresh and new so they would simply stand on a hill and say," I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you!" That simple and the wife was left destitute and untouchable. It was cruel and was condemned by the religious community of the time. I think you were most justified in your divorces and your ex wives I'm sure are taking care of themselves just fine in our society. So quit stressing and make a good marriage.
2006-11-16 11:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on your religion i guess, since protestants don`t have a problem with divorce and remarriage. Catholics are different in that although they tolerate divorce they do not tolerate remarriage unless the previous marriage(s) were annulled. The bible in moses time(old testament) tolerated divorce(from a male perspective only) but in the new testament Jesus was very clear that what God had united no man could divide.
2006-11-16 11:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God hates divorce but you are still forgiven. God wants you to be happy. It's not like you are going to hell because of it. Just ask for forgiveness. Also, Jesus said in the Bible that when the spouse commits adultery, then it is permittable to divorce.
2006-11-16 11:30:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the bible it does state that you can divorce if you partner cheats on you. You can read about it in 1 Corinthians chapter 7 or Mat 5:31.......take care
2006-11-16 11:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 01:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second time your good.
But the bible says "if any man divorces his wife for any reason other than adultery then he is guilty of adulrey."
You had a right to remove your self from the situation but you should have waited for her to divorce you. The bible says that a person should never divorce but if their partner leaves them, to let them.
2006-11-16 11:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by JaimeM 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you have a right to be happy regardless of what others think or say (including the bible). Best of luck this time around.
2006-11-16 11:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Nemesis 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋