How many of your husbands would let you take your son and go visit YOUR parents in another country alone, WITHOUT him? If not, why wouldn't he let you take your son alone on a trip with you?
2006-11-16 11:03:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother came down from Canada when I had my son, but my father has never met my now 10-month-old son. My mother offered to fly me to Canada on her so I could bring my son and have him meet everyone, but my husband thinks it's not an option because if I went that meant I didn't care about him and having everyone meet him too. He also thinks I won't come back. I've left him twice before, once when we were engaged, once right after we were married, but when the annulment was being arranged I found out I was pregnant and we decided to work things out. Now, he's super paranoid about me just up and leaving him and whenever things get better between us and we become stronger, his paranoia knocks those new bonds down. It's like he wants me all to himself, and that I'm not allowed to go visit my parents or anybody without him, and that I can't take "his son" anywhere without him. I love him, but I thought there were a lot of people out there that would let their wives go on the trip.
2006-11-16 11:07:01 · update #1
God knows i wouldnt want to instigate any crisis, but ask yourself... what are you afraid of? is he going to physically hurt you if you try to go? will he disown you and/or make your life hell upon your return? you are an adult human being with as much choice and freedom as the rest of us, and life as well as your family are too precious to waste accomodating someones insecurities. ESPECIALLY if he has given you reason to leave him twice, and you are obviously only staying for the child, which could be affecting him a lot more than you see.
think of what is literally and physically holding you back from doing what is right for you and your family
are you completely dependent on him for shelter and food for you and your kid, and if you are... learn to be self sufficient, hopefully he wont be around forever to take care of you
2006-11-16 11:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Princess of Dankness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband would be ok about it. This is a trust issue, I mean if he is so paranoic is because of a reason and if u have left him before is because of a reason. It is really selfish of him to not let you visit your parents. You need to sit down and talk to him...talk ur brains out and make him understand that if he doesn't let you be he is actually pushing you to leave him. No body likes to be a prisoner. Talk to him make him trust you, give him ur parent's phone #'s, address, etc so that he can be in touch with you guys while u are up there... you guys need some couseling (if there is still love). Worst case just sign a notarized document where he gives permission to let you take the baby for whatever time, that way he'd know that you'd have to be back by time agreed. Good luck to you.
2006-11-16 19:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by babygirlxx68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is being ridiculous. Of course you should be able to go and visit your family in Canada with your son. There should be no question about it. Your husband is being selfish and immature towards you.
I live in the U.S.A and my family all live in Canada and when my kids were small I often went to visit them without my husband due to his work schedule. He thought it was important that myself and my kids got to spend time with my side of the family.
I hope you do get to take your son and visit your family in Canada, it's only right that you should.
2006-11-16 19:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wouldnt care becasue we have so much trust and he is too busy with his job. so it would be fun to take him, but he wouldnt mind if we went alone.
2006-11-16 19:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine wouldnt. Why? Just for the shear fact he'd want the break and want to join us.
2006-11-16 19:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by candirenee74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "how many husband would LET"? They are husbands, not owners of their wives
2006-11-16 19:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it hun. You have your rights too~!
2006-11-16 19:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by coolbriskbaby1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby would think I was cheating..
2006-11-16 19:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Zebra Stripes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do every summer.
2006-11-16 19:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by daknzach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a man will do it if he trusts you if not he want
2006-11-16 19:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋