We've been together for more than a year. Sometimes it seems like my boyfriend and I are on top of the world... We just love each other SO SO much and we're all over one another... So much trust and just... incredible.
Other times, like TODAY, for example... He seems to have little interest in me... He just hangs out with the guys or does his work, plays guitar by himself (usually I sing with him) or goes to bed early. Returns kisses very lightly and rapidly, not lingering... No long, romantic looks... just... neutral. Like he's taking me for granted... I don't think I ever do this... what he does...
What could it be? Is it naturally-occuring? I know we'll bounce back again but I just want to know...
2006-11-16 11:00:40 · 11 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is only natural. Ive been with my partner for 5 and a half years and pregnant with my first child. We love each other dearly and we both often say we are each other's "soulmate". But regretfully your partner cant be the romantic you want or need him to be all the time.
Its beautiful to be in love with someone u care so deeply about, but at the same time people also need their own space to grown and learn. Im also in the same type of situation as your partner, but im the one that sometimes goes a little cool.
Its not that i dont love my partner, i love him to the ends of the earth. But i need my own personal space and be alone or with family and friends. A relationship isnt measured by what u can do just with your partner, but also being able to be an individual and still have your own room. If i become despondent, he knows i want time out. I dont want time out from the relationship, i want time to be with "me".
Dont fret, i think everything will be fine. But at the end of the day, just be alert if you lose communication with him or he doesnt appear attentive to you at all.
2006-11-16 11:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by gr33n_3y3d_grrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to expect so much, and find a happy medium with him. perhaps he likes to have some alone time as well... which is actually Healthier... u need to focus on your life independent of him, so that you are well rounded, and have MORE to contribute to the relationship :). think of it this way.. the more u know, the more u've experienced, the more friends u have, the more things u've done, the more u can share with him! of course u'd like to experience ALL things w/ him..but it's also just as important to have a girls' night out or boys night out once in awhile. that way, u can come together and "dish" about what's going on, u know? if i were u, i'd start taking some classes or get involved at work, or hang out w/ some of the girls, and have a LIFE. either he will miss u and start giving u more attention, or more likely u both will have a more healthy lifestyle of activities, and sharing your lives together. good luck~
2006-11-16 19:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats. You're past the milk and honey sparkle part of your relationship. Yea that's normal. It's just both of you settling in. You have probably done it more than once w/o reallizing too. Chances are good he doesn't realize it either. If it starts bugging you too much, talk to him about it. Keep in mind that he does have a life too tho. He can't spend all his time doting on you.
2006-11-16 19:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds moody. I wouldn't say it is normal at all, especially since you have only been together a year. I would insist on talking to him about this. Maybe something is bothering him. Maybe he needs some alone time and feels smothered. You guys could schedule some couple time and some friends time.
2006-11-16 19:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't always feel the rush you felt when you were first going out. Lows are normal and you shouldn't feel insecure because of them.
2006-11-16 19:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, we all have are days and he is just having one today. Just give him his space, but if it persists then maybe you should ask him what he is thinking about.
2006-11-16 19:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm not like hes been that way ahwile its just one day..maybe hes tired or something.
2006-11-16 19:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, that's just the natural progression of things. All is well.
2006-11-16 19:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
goodnight beautiful days lol
2006-11-16 19:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it girl
2006-11-16 19:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋