Do you think that a 20 year boy is to old for a girl who just turn 17 years old???Because this boy asked me out and he is 20 years old and i live in newark nj and he lives in jackson nj thats down the shore from me and that is my older brothers ex gf cousin and i just dont know i only saw him a couple of times when i went down the shore with my brother and his girl at the time he was nice and all but i really want to know what should i do because i told him that im not ready for a realtionship yet but i want to get to know him more do u think he is to old for me and that i told him i would like to get 2 know him better??????
2006-11-16 10:51:36 · 19 answers · asked by njsweetheart69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 17 (turned 17 may 1st) and my boyfriend turned 21 on the 14th. were very happy and are about to celebrate our first anniversary. i say go for it, you never know how well things can turn out
2006-11-16 10:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jordan Alexis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think of it this way - he's out of high school and I assume you are still in school? He's an "adult" and you're not quite there yet... If you were 20 and he's 23, perfectly fine... But right now, you might want to stick with the boys around your age group. Even though it seems that boys develop slower than girls (they tend to stay in that immature faze after girls have left it behind) an older boy might pressure you into doing things you're not ready for... I went out with a guy who was 24 when I was 17 (almost 18) and it was like EWWWW!!! He seemed so old and it was not cool!
2006-11-16 18:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by samidlux 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. 20 is not to old. I dated a 20 year old when I was 17. It's not that big of a deal. But then again, when you are 17 in Texas you are considered an adult in the eyes of the law and so he couldn't get in trouble anyways. But still, 20 and 17 aren't that far apart. And anyways, you just want to get to know him better. There's nothing wrong with getting to know someone.
2006-11-16 18:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong in wanting to know more about the guy and i dont think that 20 is too old for a 17 y old. it's only a 3yrs difference... go out w/ him and get to know him better...there's nothing wrong in dating you older bro's ex gf cousin...
2006-11-16 18:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by DruNkStripPeR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to have to deal with 2 different lifestyles. You are still in HS, he is either in college/ or the workforce. Your free time is different, as are you interest after hs. If your parents do not have a prob w/ it, and you think that your are mature enough to deal w/ it, prob ok. Also, men this age do not always have the best intentions when it comes to women, so keep that in mind as well.
2006-11-16 18:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by neo1973_99 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i live in Newark, OH (not kidding) and it's plenty common here. we have lots of 16 year old girls dating 21 and 22 year old guys here. i swear there's something in the water in this town, the people here are a different breed of human... it's sad, but somehow they keep it on the down-low. i'd say go for it.
2006-11-16 18:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not too old to take you to dinner, but dessert is out of the question!
So long as he understands that you are a minor, you guys can date. And dating is a great way to get to know someone. He didn't ask you for anything more (did he? did he???)
2006-11-16 18:54:51 · answer #7 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, at 20 he's not a boy any more...he's a man...
...and at 17, in most states anyway, it'd be illegal for him to date you (you are a minor, he is not)...
As far as maturity and all that, you may be failrly matched...but wait until you turn 18 to get into anything serious, or you could really screw up his life (or rather, HE could really screw up his life)...
2006-11-16 18:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he is too old for you is only a 3 years different and thats how far me and my bf are. Is better if you get to know him better call each other and chill with each other and just get to know him
2006-11-16 18:55:36 · answer #9 · answered by babychula928 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wouldn't hurt to get to know him better, spend some time together, etc.. you don't have to rush into any type of commitment with him..
there is nothing illegal with having dinner with him.. but yah, if you are considering any type of sexual contact, that could open the door for legal troubles for him.
2006-11-16 18:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋