i am in highschool and plan to not do it till i am 18. i am not against the whole premarital sex thing but sometimes i fell physically ready and not mentally and as much nice my ex was nice about this it seems like its hard for guys to deal with that especially preps like me in hs
2006-11-16 10:49:17 · 36 answers · asked by no longer caligirl. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with it
2006-11-16 10:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jordan Alexis 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No No No... Not wrong. I'm glad to know that their are still people like you around. Yes, it is hard to deal with.... hard for you and your man but there is always that "chance" of getting pregnant despite the measures that you take. I have 2 kids and I'm young... I wish I would have practiced the same thing. My kids and I are takin' care of but I lost a big part of my life. Sex is also the "final" mystery that you and your partner have left to solve. After that... there's nothing else. Watch out ... some like to "get it" and run, especially if you've never been with anyone. It's a good idea... take it from someone young (early 20's) that knows.
2006-11-16 10:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abstinence is not wrong at all! Premarital sex can cause many problems, unwanted children :(, STDs, jealous lovers, etc). In fact living together/sex before marriage causes more problems should you decide to get married.
It is hard for (most) guys. They are out for one thing, and they do not want to wait for it. Denying these guys the sex they crave will filter out MOST of the worthless guys. "True love waits" You will save yourself lots of heart ache.
Like the other answer, I would whole heartedly recommend abstinence until marriage. I have so far, and I have saved myself a whole lot of heartache. I have seen many around me reap the consequences of a casual "fling" or one night stand. It will hurt more than any temporary passion or joy it creates. Also, once the guy has what he wants, he will just look for the next conquest.
Bottom line: Once you lose your virginity, you can never get it back. Please, continue to save yourself heartache and save the physical intimacy for your honeymoon!
God bless.
Also, I might add that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being against "the whole premarital sex thing" Let those trashy guys call you "prudish" or "scared" or whatever other (worse) names they may have. They are just angry that they cannot get what they want. I hold women who refuse to give it until marriage in the highest regard.
2006-11-16 11:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abstinence is the best thing you could do. Don't have sex just to have sex, save it for the man u love. I am high school too, but I believe in abstinence so strongly that it dosent matter what other people say. If people try to pressure you into doing things you are not ready for, then they are NOT real friends.
2006-11-16 10:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin butt!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not wrong. You are in a smaller number of smart induviduals that wait.
There is nothing wrong with making a choice that includes your not getting pregnant, an STD or used for sex.
Keep it up, when you are ready completely, you will know and you should wait until then. Love is not about just sex. It's like icing on the cake, not the whole cake itself.
2006-11-16 10:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
absolutely not! You have the right to make decisions about your own body. And if you are not 100% ready, physically AND Mentally, AND emotionally, then you are making the wisest choice. I'm not saying wait til youre married or anything like that. I'm saying waiting until YOU are ready. Guys at this age are ruled by hormones more than girls, but don't let that affect your decision about your body, mind, and emotions.
2006-11-16 10:53:28 · answer #6 · answered by candirenee74 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
speaking from a man's perspective, sex drive is very strong and is sometimes difficult to resist. I think waiting until you're 18 is a great idea. I never had sex before 18, and I didn't miss anything except unwanted teen pregnancies. The important thing to remember: YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE SEX WITH SOMEBODY UNLESS YOU'RE WILLING TO MARRY THE PERSON IF YOU GET PREGNANT. IF YOU'RE NOT WILLING TO MARRY THE PERSON IF YOU GET PREGNANT, THEN YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE SEX WITH THEM. very important concept.
good luck and remember what I said above.
2006-11-16 10:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by djbod2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not. Its the best way to keep off from AIDS and immoral behaviour. Sex is best when you are married. If you expose yourself to sex before marriage then you will open yourself to all these calamities including pregnancy for ladies. Hang on till that time comes and you will laugh the loudest
2006-11-16 10:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think abstinence is right on target and should be thought of more frequently by young people such as yourself. I personally think it is so important to save yourself for your future spouse. I mean, really, how awesome of a gift would that be to be able to tell your fiance that you were pure and waiting for only him? Physically, mentally, and spiritually it is an act that should only take place between two people who are meant to spend their life together. My thoughts...prayers =)
2006-11-16 10:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No...of course not. All boys want is one thing. Especially kids in High School. You should wait longer. There are much more respectable guys out there.
2006-11-16 10:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me!! Sex is good yes. But if you ever want it to be the best that it can be wait. Absents makes the heart grow fonder. Best things come to those who wait. Ringing any bells here.
2006-11-16 10:51:46 · answer #11 · answered by kinreep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋