we used to 2 times a day, after a year, twice a week and now (5 years) three times a month. every time we do its amazing, more so for her because i make sure she gets off twice each time. I want to have sex 4 times a week. Its killing me and making me really upset.
2006-11-16 10:48:00 · 17 answers · asked by bnuts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
qamberg is right. Any chance she's cheating? Or was faking enthusiasm until you were hooked?
2006-11-16 10:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you two have kids? Is she having a lot of stress at work? Is she taking the pill? After five years are you still doing the things that she needs to get into the mood? Sometimes after being together for so long, you can start taking each other for granted and you may need to put the romance back into the relationship. Also, you might need to help her out more to lighten her load.
There can be a whole lot of reasons for her lower libido. You need to sit down with her and have an honest talk. Maybe you can find a happy medium that works for the both of you.
2006-11-16 16:49:18 · answer #2 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by ashmore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello this is Thinkpink4u101
Am going to honest okay the reason being is she's 2 tried, she's bored, or she getting it else where! I know cuz iam in the same situation with my 4 yr. relationship. The sex is now boring for me so i fake it or it's not as often as we use to. Women have a hard time experting how they feel, think and want. She want more from you but don't know how to tell you or your not doing something right as far as pleasure. I know you make sure she's pleased But she's not!
2006-11-16 10:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by thinkpink4u101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of reasons for her to slow down. She may need a physical to make sure there are not health issues. She may need medication to help her through this. Its no big deal. Just talk to her in an open and honest way - try not to sound like you are accusing her of not having relations often enough. Let her know you are concerned about her health.
2006-11-16 10:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's bored. And are you really getting her off twice? She could be faking. Because every woman I've known that I could get off more than once wants it alllll the time man. They love it. So you might want to ask wussup. Or she could be cheating on you too!
2006-11-16 10:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship has become secure for her. There's growing medical evidence that as women perceive a relationship to be secure, their sex drive drops. (To which countless guys throughout history shout, "Tell us something we DIDN'T know!")
The Sources field lists a BBC article about the issue, reported by the Hamburg-Eppendorf University Hospital. I recommend reading it -- both you AND your girlfriend.
I only learned about this during the past year -- and I've spent 25 of the past 27 years of marriage thinking my wife was angry with me about something or that there was something I was doing wrong. The truth -- that it's a natural, expected part of a stable, secure relationship -- has made it MUCH, MUCH easier for us to work out a satisfying sexual balance that works for both of us, because she understands that my sex drive hasn't dropped as much as hers has, and she understands that hers HAS. And this has made us BOTH willing to work around it so that we have a better life together. (Which, I suspect, is a big part of the reason it's lasted 27 years.)
We've come to acknowledge that regular sexual release -- with her -- is a critical part of a satisfied, fulfilled life for me. It's important for her, too, but she requires it at a much lower frequency than I do. She's quite content to climax about once a week -- and you can be sure that when she IS in the mood, I do whatever it takes to make the experience completely and utterly satisfying for her! (How do I know she's content to climax once a week? I ask her...)
I, on the other hand, have about a 36-hour limit; in case of illness or emergency I can stretch it to 48, but by hour 52 or so I start kicking the cats, grumbling at inanimate objects, and in general acting like the dad in "A Christmas Story" when the Bumpus hounds rush into the kitchen and eat the turkey. :-)
One thing that has helped my relationship has been teasing apart what's sexy from what's intimate. We have made a conscious effort to spend more time being intimate with each other -- even if we're relaxing in front of the TV, we'll press up against one another, skin to skin, stroking each others' backs and thighs, with our arms and legs draped over and around each other. Even if it doesn't lead to sex, it gives a great sense of closeness and physical intimacy -- and when it DOES lead to sex, the sex is a natural outpouring of being close with each other, which makes it more pleasant for her even on a night she doesn't feel the need for her own release.
That paragraph, I just realized, implies but doesn't make explicit the key distinction here -- I have taken responsibility for telling my wife when I'm at the stage that I need release, versus when I'm okay with a quiet night of holding each other, backrubs, and resting in each others' arms. I try to tell her early enough in the day that we can work things out -- we have three kids, a VERY active schedule, and my wife has some health issues that we need to work around (welcome to middle age...) And the key here is communication. She isn't automatically aware of how I feel, of when it's fine for me to lie next to her and rub her feet while we watch old movies, and when I need... more. It's up to me to tell her.
And it's up to you to let your girlfriend know the same about you -- within a context of understanding and acceptance that the two of you are on different schedules, if you will. And for the couple to be successful, you guys need to work out something that is acceptable to BOTH of you.
In the meanwhile, you can both take comfort in the fact that it's not anything either of you is doing wrong -- it's a fact of biology. And having acknowledged that, you two can have the freedom to work out a sexual relationship that is satisfying, fulfilling, and secure for BOTH of you. Because that's the whole point of being a couple -- you do things for each other to make the life you share better than it would be on your own.
2006-11-16 11:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you are complaining... A lot of people have it once a month... If it's not enough for you go get a second gfriend...She is probably sucking someone else
2006-11-16 10:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it something to do with her hormones. Try talking to her and telling her how you feel about it and see how it goes from there. Good luck dude.
2006-11-16 10:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be that it's starting to bore her, have you tried asking her or even so....try something new and exciting and see if she'll change back to her old sex loving self.
"good luck though"
2006-11-16 10:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by angelic_234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋