Your friend approaches you and tell you that he and his girlfriend are getting serious. He also tells you that he and his girlfriend think that they are ready to go to the “next step” and have sex together.
Write letter to your friend explaining your view on the subject. (Include in your letter chastity, sexuality, family, and God)
2006-11-16 10:44:30 · 19 answers · asked by Mike 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The act of sex is giving yourself to each other. When you give yourslef to another person in that way you leave a part of yourself with them not just physically but spiritually. They likewise leave part of themselves with you.
As such loving making is something that ought to be for someone you truly love, someone you believe you will be spending the rest of your life with.
The bible is fairly clear on this matter. Fornication is wrong. It is something for marriage.
The next point is do you want the possible responsibility of children. If pregnancy results what will you both do. Marry? Are you prepared to marry each other. If not why are you having sex? If yes then why not wait until your married?
And it is not really sex, it is loving making. If it is just sex, then are you truly in love?
Waiting for that right person until marriage brings greater joy, it brings the knowledge that you have self control and not just to lustful animals. As a man it shows you have self control and respect for girlfriends chastity. It shows your love and respect for her exceeds all else.
By each of you holding off until the rings are on your fingers shows a mutual respect for each other, family and God.
So don't just go for it. That's what the dogs next door do.
Weigh everything up consider all the costs.
In the end however, the decision is for you and your girlfriend.
Hope this helps.
Your friend no matter what you decide.........
Scruff
2006-11-16 11:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by scruff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend:
Way to go! Remember to wear a condom, AND make sure she's on other birth control as well. Have fun! Remember to relax, and that it's not all about you. Make sure she's ready and that she gets a payoff at the end. Er, I mean .... well, I don't mean money.
I'm glad you're doing this, since chastity is for the very very young. Sexuality is natural and should be embraced. If you're not ready to start a family, remember the birth control!
Hope to hear you both shouting "oh god! oh god!" very soon!
2006-11-16 18:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
LOL, I think someone has a preconcieved notion on what the answer is.
Dear friend,
Chastity is overrated in american culture. Human sexuality is a very natural thing and there is a reason that we are not stuck with mating seasons like other animals. Sex has an intimate purpose as well as procreative. It doesn't always have to create a family. God doesn't exist so don't worry your little head about supernatural consequences. The only consequences are here and now. Wear a condom.
Sincerely,
Ronin
2006-11-16 18:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Dear, friend
You know that i there 4 u and I would never say anything to hurt u personally but i'm a concerned friend about your relationship and I wanna u 2 put more thought into ur decision by asking you what about god? there's not suppose to be any sex into after your married or at least not right not man!!! Are you gonna tell ur family about it? What if somethin crazy happens like she get's pregnant!!! I will respect any decision you make just please if you do decide to follow through use a condom. santelli
2006-11-16 18:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if I were Christian and thought any of it was my business; I would suggest to my friend to think carefully on his actions. That saving sex for marriage can be a wonderful gift and leave it at that. After that it's up to the friend. If he went through with it I would just have to accept his choice and move on.
2006-11-16 18:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear friend,
Chastity has been boring so far. Sexuality is fun to explore! (But not with your family). Good God, I think you should try it with your girlfriend!
Love,
Billie (Plus, I used all your words!)
2006-11-16 18:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dear Friend,
Enclosed, you will find a couple of condoms. Use them so you won't get her pregnant, as well as protect you and her from any diseases each of you may have.
Also enclosed, you will find a digital camera. Please take a LOT of pictures, as I really think your girlfriend is hot, and before I attempt to steal her from you, I want to know if she would be worth losing you as a friend.
2006-11-16 18:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by mesquitemachine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what religion your friend is, because I certainly wouldn't impose my beliefs upon my friend, but I would encourage him to by honest with himself and his ideals. Most importantly, I would tell him to make sure he wears a jimmy.
2006-11-16 19:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, congrats. Hit it hard the first time, make an impression! And remember, If she can speak, your not doing it right.
...all acts of love and pleasure are my rituals. -the Goddess
2006-11-16 18:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Zanahade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend
go for it ... since it seems you know this girl well and are serious about her ..
after all it would be silly to wait till you are commited to something to find out you arent compatible in bed right ?
love you loads
your buddy pangel xx
2006-11-16 18:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by Peace 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋