Okay, I've been with this girl for over six months, and we're really hitting it off. the problem was that my relationship before this was just as good, but it ended really messily. Well, lately, I've gotten back in touch with my ex from that realtionship, and we've become good friends, like we were before. my problem is that I keep getting flashbacks and urges from the time we were going out. I will admit that i still love my ex, but I would like to think that it's not the same love I had for her nearly year ago. It's hurting my relationship and I can't do anything about it. my ex and now girlfriends are really good friends, but my girlfriend is afraid i'll leave her for my ex. I'm afraid that I might too. It really sucks because I thought I was over her, I guess i'm not. Any suggestions?
2006-11-16 10:34:54 · 9 answers · asked by kiatzu_shutendo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like Usher's song "You Make Me Wanna" to the T.
You say you "can't do anything about it." I sorely disagree, mate! You can do EVERYTHING about it.
Do what you do when you do it.
In other words, stop trying to be in 2 relationships at the same time.
Love the one you're with.
A wise scripture says that he who has faith over a little will be rewarded with much.
So be PRESENT with your current girl, NOT your ex. If you two are meant to be, you will be. But don't break any hearts to get there or you may pay. Karma my friend.
Okay. Now that I've laced you down with lyrics and scriptures, please do the right thing. You CAN do something about this. You CAN.
2006-11-16 10:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this sounds like a situation I was in. Well the first thing you need to ask yourself is: What am I looking for and what do I want in the future? Obviously your other relationship ended for a reason. Can you get over what happened and keep it from happening a second time if you were to get back together with her? And why are you questioning your new relationship? What happens if you do go back out with the ex and it doesn't work, and then your new girlfriend won't give you another chance. Women don't like to come in second place. I think that it is impossible to love someone new until you are completely over the last one. Have you done anything to reassure your new girlfriend that you won't leave her? You need to be honest with both of them, and if you feel strong enough feelings for the ex, you should try to work that out first, because you won't be able to give the new girl 100% if you are always wondering. Hope this helps! Good luck.
2006-11-16 18:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by prairiefire_14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seeing two women who know each other how long do you think it will take for them to figure out what's going on if they are into threesomes it will be okif not, you better run now, you are physically attracted to your ex those are the flash backs you are getting and remember the end was messy, you need to choose one or the other or you will pay dearly.
2006-11-16 18:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up and stop thinking that the past was better than the now. You broke up and moved on there is no going back. Stop talking with the ex and focus on the new GF. I know it's hard on guys to focus but try.
2006-11-16 18:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your girlfriend you'll stay with her! You've already dated your ex and it never worked out so 9 times out of 10 it won't work now either.
2006-11-16 18:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by ~brunette♥~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a great healer. Maybe you are not ready for a new relationship so soon after splitting, and need time with your mates or alone to get your head together.
2006-11-16 18:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only suggestion would be NOT to use "MESSILY" ever again.
2006-11-16 18:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by Just B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think you know what love really is....cause you wouldnt ask
2006-11-16 18:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur are screwed
2006-11-16 18:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by chris's baby girl 4 life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋