I have been dating this one guy for a little over 2 years, and I think I have fallen out of love with him. What used to be cute is now annoying, and what used to be annoying now makes me want to smack him. He is still VERY much in love with me, and takes for granted that we'll be together forever. He's really sweet and I hate to break his heart. Advice?
2006-11-16 10:33:58 · 22 answers · asked by purrr:) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im almost 18. He's so in love that he's talking marriage once I get outa highschool. A weird thing keeps happening: I'm more in love with him when we're apart than when we're together. Isn't that weird? I'm always happy when he says he can come over, but when he gets here, I end up being mad at him for no reason.
2006-11-16 10:52:39 · update #1
Sorry, either break his heart or suffer being with some one you don't want to be with... bottom line.
2006-11-16 10:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have not necessarily fallen out of love, but you are no longer in the euphoric state of love. In the euphoric state of love, nothing can really go wrong. During this state what would normally irritate us can be cute, things that would normally annoy us have no effect, because we are "in love". You will find that love is actually nothing that you would have normally thought it would be. Love is patient, understanding, enduring and timeless. Love is not "gushy", or romantic, etc... Love is genuine. Love comes from your mind and heart. Love is a choice. Love is in your actions, and not the other way around. My advice is that you examine, what you really feel. Do you care for him? Are you really interested in making his life better, in making your life better by being a couple? Do you not want to change him, or yourself to fit into molds that are not really either of you? Search inside your heart. Your heart knows what love really is. Listen to your heart. Follow your instincts. You already know what is right, you just need to slow yourself down. Take some real time for yourself, and listen to the truth that exists inside of you.
2006-11-16 18:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by dr.cocktail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welp thats a tough situation
ive been there before
except it backfired b/c i felt all the same ways u said ur feeling
and so i let him go and dropped him
but then come to find out a year later ive come to miss him and all his annoying ways and would kill to have them back
sometimes we dont know just what we have till its way gone! and way to late
but to answer ur ?? u need to be straight forward with him and tell him how u feel either way ur gunna hurt him so do it in a respectful way ...its better to break the news as soon as possible then to keep him lingering ..so just tell the guy and hope for a positive out come...i hope this helped....goodluck!!!
2006-11-16 18:37:55 · answer #3 · answered by Natalie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont love him anymore it is not fair to either of you to stay with him. You must realize that once you break up....you break up. He may not be there if you decide to go running back.
Why dont you try talking to him first..... see if you can figure out what the problem is....
Or break up & move on... don't worry about him.... he will get over it...........we always do.
2006-11-16 18:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, just go ahead and break it. Ive had that happen, not that long of a relationship, and it made me feel so much better. Maybe he wont feel so good, but he can move on.
2006-11-16 18:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do what u gotta do, just be simple, be real... however way u do it won't be smooth. be honest and get your point across clearly and stick to your plan, if u break up and months later get back w/the guy... just means u wasted your time. be smart and mature about the situation you'll be alrught.
2006-11-16 18:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Henry P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot lie to yourself or him, take a break and see if the heart grows fonder when you are seperated. Be happy yourself, in order to make another person in your life matter........
2006-11-16 18:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lesha a Canadian. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your choice its your life.just take a lil brake for a day or two and see how it goes from there.it works you might need a little break thats all.or just if thats not working break up with him but do it the nice way try to explain to him why your gonna break up with him if you are..just dont break his heart to much...i wish you good luck!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-16 18:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by destiny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meow
2006-11-16 18:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u dont love him...you have to tell him....do not let this continue...same thing happened to me except i was the sucker bf...who got screwed by my ex....she fell out of love with me 2 yrs into our relationship...but didnt tell me...i guess she tried but i didnt see it...eventually i caught her cheating on me the 3 year...all hell broke loose and it took me 5 yrs to recover from the ugly break up....i strongly suggest ..if you dont want to be with him....let him know early before its too late...and cause much grief....
2006-11-16 18:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by nfocuz00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋