We went out but we broke up because she started to listen to other girls about how I always cheated on somebody and acted like nothing every happen, but I haven't felt the same since we broke up and now we don't talk.
2006-11-16 10:32:48 · 24 answers · asked by Sport O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Karma at it's best ... sucks to find the right girl when you've created a monster, doesn't it?
2006-11-16 10:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say you brought your reputation on yourself. Can't blame the girl for not wanting to be hurt. The only thing you can do is prove to her she is the love of your life, that your love for her has turned you around. Let her know some how some way that you did not have the love for the other girls as you have for her. Call her, write her, do what you have to do in order to tell her you would like to have this serious discussion with her. Ask her to give you a chance to prove yourself. Tell her if she still feels the same about you later on and does not want to be with you. As much as it would hurt, you will not hold her back from moving on. I know how you feel. I went through this with my husband. Yes, I said husband. I Thank God every day that he had this discussion with me 15 years ago. And I thank God I had enough foresight to let him prove his love for me. I feel honored he loved me enough to make that big turn around. We have been happily married now for 14 years.
2006-11-16 10:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to move to another city, dude. Once you get a reputation as being untrustworthy, no woman worthwhile would want to trust you.
Trust is a slender reed: once bent, it is forever broken. You cannot ask for trust. Someone says "trust me" and you start checking to make sure your wallet is still there. Right? Well, the only thing you can ask for is accountability. You have to be held accountable. Make it clear where you are; who you are with; what your goals are. If you start back to cheating, then everyone finds out.
Like I said, move to another city and start over.
2006-11-16 10:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by NeoArt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, first if you did cheat on your other gfs and that is your habit....she has reason to not trust you. If you are going to change your ways then that is a good reason to have a talk with her and tell her that your history has not been a good one when it comes to being faithful to your past gfs. Explain that you have learned from this bad behavior that it's not a good track record and you are going to be loyal to her and would she please give you a chance to prove your love for her. That is all I know that might give you another chance with her since you really care for her like you stated. Best wishes...I hope she does say yes.....
2006-11-16 10:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should call or email her. It's upsetting to those who never know what's going on and here about something that's personal to them from someone else. Explain to her that it was the past and that it won't repeat itself. Tell her that you care too much about her to cheat on her. Let her know you are a different person and you look at that and regret it. You would have never done that if you knew it would mess up your chances with her. Good Luck!!!!
2006-11-16 10:43:07 · answer #5 · answered by Heavenly Angel725 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if that is what you have done in the past you kinda have to understand her fears...
You are gonna have to earn her trust. Don't give up on her. Try harder. Prove that you only want to be with her. Don't mess around with other girls... even if she wont talk to you. Keep after her, and if you do catch her... don't screw up and prove all the people talking about you. Good luck!
2006-11-16 10:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel if you really like her. My husband before we got married used to be known as very popular. His friends nick named him The Sl*t/Pretty boy. It used to aggrivate me as well but he eventually started to defend him self to me and made me realize that he cheated on other girls because he didn't feel the way he did for me. He went above and beyond what I expected him to do. That is what made me realize he wouldn't be going through all the trouble if he didn't really care!!!!So do what you think you should do. No one could give a better answer than yourself!!!!
2006-11-16 10:40:44 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah thats part of the game...its not free man. There's a price to pay when you do that. Thats one thing I don't respect about guys that cheat on their girlfriends...the only way they ever notice someone special is when they're gone. My advice to you would be to figure out what you want.
2006-11-16 10:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her understand that really is the past. You honestly won't do it again. I mean..put yourself in her shoes. Wouldn't you be the slightest bit afraid to go through the humiliation and rejection if it does happen with a guy. Just change and then let her know that. HOPE IT HELPED..thx
2006-11-16 10:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cay-Cay 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your past has caught up with you. Sometimes we have to pay the price for our foolish actions with other people. You can just keep talking to her and try your best to show her you have changed. If she will give you a chance make sure you are faithful to her. That will go a long way to clean up your reputation.
2006-11-16 10:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever cheat on her? If you did, forget it. You're not worth it. If you didn't DON'T, and tell her that you haven't and won't. It might also help to admit the times you have cheated. Listen to her stories she's heard, and then confirm or deny them and tell the circumstances. Then tell her again that you won't cheat on her.
2006-11-16 10:37:27 · answer #11 · answered by purrr:) 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋