I have been seeing someone for just over a year. I started noticing that when ever he would refer to what we have, he would avoid saying relationship, there have even been times where he would say rel... and then change it to friendship. So I asked him and he said this is a friendship, then said he thought he made that clear when we started dating (1 year ago) that he wasn't looking for anything serious. But for the past year we do couple things, dates, hanging out with each others kid(s), sex, everything a people in a relationship do. I told him that I don't f*@k my friends, I was really upset and him and at myself for being clueless. He didn't understand my frustration. He said that he is not intersted in being with anyone else and that he loves spending time with me, and can that be so bad to the 2 of us the enjoy spending time with each other. Now about 4 mo ago I told him I loved him and he hasn't said it back. He is 40 and I am in my late 20's. I would love advice from older guys
2006-11-16 10:30:48 · 8 answers · asked by CHA_CHA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You asked for the truth mainly here so this what I am going to give you. There is a book called "he is just not that into you" get it and read it. It is hard and it sucks what this guy is doing. He is PLAYING YOU. You are letting him which is you telling yourself your do not deserve to be loved. well your are wrong. you do. You need to walk away from this guy no calls no emails and no leaving your stuff at his place or his at yours. No my kids miss yours or anything like that. NONE of it. If he wants and loves you then he will stand up and treat you as you deserve. Right now he has everything he needs and wants you in his bed and not having to commit at all. wow what guy wouldn't love that. really. you have given this guy way too much power. He is not a jerk he is just himself. If you keep hanging out with him then your not allowing Mr. right to come along cus your busy sitting with Mr oh so wrong.
2006-11-16 10:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you told him that you loved him and he didn't say it back than he is liking you but he is also using you maybe because of you looks. I was in the same situation and I got out because of the bad things that happened after we started to get apart from each other. Now we don't even talk all we do is stare at each other. I feel for another person but we separated because I use to cheat and they got scared that I was going to do the same thing to them. But I really fell for in love and I don't know what to do. So if he does not say anything back to you even if you hassle if for a day leave him there is other guys out in the world.
2006-11-16 18:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sport O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not an older guy, but i am in my 20's. and my advice to you is this: if u are with someone for a certain period of time (i'd say about 1 year and 1/2), u discuss at the end of that time, whether or not marriage is in the cards. if HE is the one u want to marry, and YOU are the one he wants to marry.
if he doesn't know, or if u don't know, BREAK IT OFF. not cuz u don't love each other..but because ur unsure. if u break it off, u will save urself years and years and years of staying together, but not being sure of what ur moving towards. and it gives both of u chances to meet new people.. possibly that match ur lives better.
good luck
2006-11-16 18:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny if he isn't looking for something serious rhen i suggest that you move on to another guy if he is in his in 40 then guess what that the only thing he's is going to have with you. He is getting old and before he gets older and become all old then he is going ot see you as a friend but with benefit. You are still young move on..
2006-11-16 18:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by babychula928 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship doesn't sound balanced. It looks like your expectations are different from his. When I read the first sentence I thought you two were very young and non-sexual. But you are absolutely right when you say "I don't f*@k my friends". In my experience unbalanced relationships are always very difficult and painful. If you love him and he doesn't love you, it just won't work, I'm afraid.
2006-11-16 18:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by solanacea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats cause hes got three other woaman on the side lucky man
2006-11-16 18:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok maybe he just likes the attention from you, but dosent want to get married to you or anything. no offence.
2006-11-16 18:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by *Cherry* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a guy that around your age.
2006-11-16 18:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Bob_123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋