He's a couple years older than me (I'm 14, he's 16) and he hasn't shown any signs of liking me as anything more than a friend, but I just can't stop thinking about him!!! I only see him every couple weeks, but I look forward to our next meeting all the time and think about him daily. This is the first person I've felt this strongly about. Help...what do I do?? We are both Jewish and we met because we're both in the same group of about 6-7 people going to Israel this winter. I only see him when we have meetings about the trip, but I'm hoping for some kind of magic when we go to Israel for two weeks (without parents!). I want to tell him how I feel, but am too nervous and there never seems to be the perfect moment. Also, I'm afraid that it will ruin the trip for me if he doesn't like me back because it would be kind of akward. It's already ruining the trip though because I am looking forward to spending time with him more than the trip itself...what if I am disappointed? Help!!
2006-11-16 10:26:36 · 6 answers · asked by michielev 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just go out, and tell him. It'll definitely be hard at first, you'll feel like there's a strange lump on your chest from all the excitement and fear all at the same time, but when you say something, it's like taking off a lot of weight off of your shoulders.
It's all about how you want to go about it. Talk with him for a little bit, get the mood all cheery around you guys. And when the both of you guys are either happy or in a cheery mood, just tell him in a cool manner(as this will definitely be the perfect moment):
"Well, um, hey I had been wanting to tell you this for a long time, and don't get offended or anything by it...but I sort of have a crush on you, and I was wondering, is it possible that we could hook up? If not, we can still be cool friends after this, right?"
A majority of the times, saying that has always helped me get something started, or get the ball rolling. I'm a guy, and 8/10 most guys, like girls, like it when the other person takes the initiative or says something. It's gotten me into a majority of my own relationships (however I like it more when a girl can take the initiative), so I'm pretty sure that you can most likely get the guy.
I'm pretty sure it can work for you as well. You don't have to say exactly what I typed, but try something out around that area, or make my statement work for you (like sticking it in at the right place, the right time, etc.). And if he doesn't like you in the same way, the awkwardness will be there, but if you throw in the friend part, and play it off as it never happened, that feeling will be gone soon.
If you become disappointed, don't worry. The fear of rejection, the awkwardness, the nervousness; they're all apart of this entire process of finding a mate. I, too feel the same way when I go about things like this, and trust me, they'll always be there. But what makes everything better is when you can overcome those feelings and just go for it.
Remember, always go for whatever your heart desires, because you might regret not doing it in the future.
2006-11-16 10:46:34 · answer #1 · answered by Fuh Q. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 14... don't get so caught up in this one guy, you could find yourself with a seriously broken heart. Sounds like you're falling hard and fast. Relax a bit and if he likes you back take things slowly.
And focus on the trip! It's not everyday you get to go to Israel!
I was in a similar situation. (He was 15 and I was 16) He was really cute and we were on the same FIRST team and we were going to Houston Texas for 5 days (also without parents) and he ended up asking me out the day we were leaving. You never know, the same thing might happen to you, so just focus on having fun and not so much on the boy.
2006-11-16 10:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by StarlightRedemption 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 03:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by goldie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you meet, make a point to get his attention and tell him how you feel. Get it out in the open before the trip that way you can get to know each other better beforehand. If it turns out that he does not feel the same way, you will have time to heal before and make new friends that will be going with you, so you won't feel so awkward. Good luck!! =)
2006-11-16 10:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are worried about ruining the trip then just wait until later in the trip to talk to him. or just try and make it really obvious and see if he makes a move first
2006-11-16 10:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by nickdog1212 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't test those waters if I were you. Even though you're only too years apart he probably thinks you are too young. Trust me, he's checkin' out 17 and 18 year olds right now.
2006-11-16 10:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋