My boyfriend told me that he cheated on my about 1 month ago and so to get back at him I went and cheated on him with two different guys. I don't feel bad but I don't know if I should tell him or not. He thinks that I have never cheated on him before. We are very much in love but when we fight he just automatically says he doesn't want to be with me anymore. Should I take that as a sign that he is still cheating on me or is there something else going on? When he does that to me he will call me the very next day and say sorry and everything like that. I don't want to fight with him anymore. What should I do to resolve this conflict?
2006-11-16 09:57:20 · 21 answers · asked by MiXeD uP iN lOvE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, he might just be very spontaneous and say things he really doesn't mean. The cheating thing is very hard i admit. On one hand, you should be able to tell him and he'd forgive you. But on the other, if you tell him it might break up your relationship... some things are better left unsaid.
2006-11-16 10:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by metall.pingwin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you've both cheated, it doesn't sound like you think too much of eachother or it wouldn't have happened in the first place. I don't see how either of you can trust the other now! I'm sorry, but that's just the way it sounds to me. You don't cheat on people that you love.
2006-11-16 10:07:42 · answer #2 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater. For you to go and sleep with 2 guys for revenge not only ruined your relationship completely because there is no longer any trust, but it ruined your self dignity. The 2 of you need to move on and should not be together, or you HAVE TO TELL him, and you guys can try to move on from this with some really good help from a counsler. What you 2 have done is completely damaged your relationship. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you choose to do.
2006-11-16 10:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just need to break up with the guy. If neither of you can keep it in your pants for only each other there's no reason to stay together. Why date someone if you're not planning on a long-term monogamous relationship? Seems like a waste of time on both your parts. Move on to a guy that you care about more than this guy. Since you obviously don't care enough to quit having sex with other people while you're with this guy.
2006-11-16 10:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a serious lack of trust and communication in this relationship. How can you claim to love a man you cheated on simply for revenge? Mistakes can occur in a relationship, he was honest about his and you used it to your advantage. Of course you should tell him the truth. My suggestion is counseling or a parting of ways..... You can't have a good and loving relationship where there is no honesty.
2006-11-16 10:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by novelwyrm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break it off. Don't tell him you cheated...that will only hurt him. It was childish in the first place. You shouldn't have cheated on him because you shouldn't have been with him after he cheated with you. Grow up.
2006-11-16 10:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT. you two are perfect for each other. what is a relationship without trust? you sound extremely immature and do not know what love is... keep this boyfriend, sounds like you two deserve each other!
2006-11-16 10:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my aren't we mature....
lower your morals just to get even.... now thats what releationships are made of.lol
Grow up...if a man cheats...move on, don't show him that your no better than he is by doing the same.
Let's face it...if he's the right guy he won't cheat, soooooo obviously since yours cheated he's not the right guy...
But what have yo said about yourself by cheating also?
2006-11-16 10:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't have done that. Don't tell him.Why are you gonna be honest with him when he betrayed you in the first place?But if you love him and want to be honest and work out your problems talk to him.He shouldn't be mad at you because if he hadn't cheated this wouldn't have happened.
2006-11-16 10:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Avangelis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand the way it feels, what ever he does you really cant help yet love him, the advice human beings are giving above is'nt helping they dont understand what your dealing with yet heavily, i imagine you should honestly comfront him educate him who's boss, and what his lacking out on he cant only play you round like some doll, yet in case you may fairly have self assurance him do it your own way imagine issues through and dont rush some thing you dont want to ..
2016-11-24 23:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by sheryl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋