We're early 20's and in end of college. we've been together about a year. i live w/2 roommtes but am looking for a new place closer to school. he still lives at home w/parents but will but moving out but the end of the school year (may/june 07) b/c of a job and getting a higher degree. we spend about 2-3 nights together now and see each other every day anyhow, so i think living together would be sensible. how should i go about asking him his opinion on this topic? any time better than others to bring it up?
2006-11-16 09:47:25 · 8 answers · asked by soccer2music 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
next time you guys talk about living situation, whether it be he's complaining about home or the drive he has, just suggest to him light heartedly. you'll get the sense of what he thinks about it. one step at a time.
2006-11-16 09:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by phantasmo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up when he's in a good mood and completely focused on you. Like maybe when you're out to dinner or hanging out at home. But fair warning, living together isn't as magical as everyone likes to think. It takes a lot of work, but if you feel ready for that kind of commitment, go for it. Don't get your feelings hurt if he thinks it's a bad idea. As I'm sure you know, some people, especially boys, like their space.
2006-11-16 18:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by oh really 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never be embarrassed to talk about things like that. If you are uncomfortable bring up a topic like that, just imagine all the things that will come up when you are living together.
If you can't think of a right time to ask, then maybe you shouldn't.
2006-11-16 17:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by syznotch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't ask him about moving in. Living with someone puts you in a whole different relationship and often doesn't work out.
But if you want to go this direction, tell him you're thinking of getting an apartment and would need roommates. Then ask if he'd like to move in just as a roommate or if he is looking for roommates for his future apartment.
2006-11-16 18:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by nancymomkids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just casually suggest it to him sometime and see what he thinks.
Though, it is true that moving in together is a major step in the relationship (not that you didn't know that already). If you really feel that you know him well enough to consider taking this step, then I would think that bringing it up shouldn't be much of a problem.
2006-11-16 21:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea, in my opinion. If you are serious about this guy, and you do move in together, somewhere down the road, you will be back here asking how you can get him to propose. And he won't be proposing, because why should he? He will have everything he wants without the committment of marriage.
Have some respect for yourself. Get your own apartment.
2006-11-17 18:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't move in with him if you are thinking it will lead to marriage - that usually doesn't work. Just do some reading in the Family and Relationships category....
2006-11-17 07:15:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea unless you're married. Period.
2006-11-16 17:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Answerer 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋