Should I call my ex boyfriend?

Question

We were together for four years...he is with someone else now, has been with her for a year, but I still love him very much. I want to at least give it a try to get him back...I figure that anything is possible, and I don't want to be lying on my deathbed and regretting the one time I didn't just call. What do you guys think? Go easy on me.

We were communicating pretty well until two months ago. He broke up with his new gf briefly, and we started hanging out, and we shared some pretty intimate moments together. we both ended up dating other people again, mostly to make eachother jealous, (immature, I know) but he stayed with her. I broke up with the guy because it didn't feel right with someone else. But someone found out about our little tryst and told the new girlfriend. Now he thinks I did it, and he's pissed at me. THAT is the reason we haven't talked.

Also, I dont neccesarily need to have him back...I truly love him, and I want him to be happy, even if its not with me. I have no problem being his friend. I just want communication to be open between us...

Answer 1

Hi,
The last thing I would do would be to encourage you, only to see you get hurt.

If you have feelings that he still cares about you, then check it out further. You might want to try writing him a letter and let him know how you feel. You will be taking a chance, but if things work out, it will be worth it.

Also, revisit the reasons the two of you are not together now. We tend to forget the bad and only remember the good, so if you feel it is worth a try in your heart, then by all means, go for it.

There is a possibility he may feel the same way about you.

Good luck, and I hope things work out for you.

Darryl S.

Answer 2

If he has been with someone else for over a year and hasn't attempted to contact you in any way, then that means that he has gotten over your relationship and has moved on. I think you should do the same too. No point thinking about the past and dwelling on it. Life goes on and so should you. It would be difficult but give it a try. And I don;t think you should give it a try to get him back as that would mean that you haven't moved on with you life while he has. It would be bad for you and will make him think that you can't be without him and he would never treat you well. Forget about it. There are lots of fish in the sea. Find someone else who is good. It would take time, but hey, it beats being treated as floormat.

Answer 3

Hello

Honey i totally feel for you!!! I just came out of a long relationship my self. And i know the feeling that you have.

Personal i think that being strong right now is important! But also if you still feel that way about him even now there i would say that there is something more there.

Something that doesn't' come along everyday! When it comes to love there are no rules!!!

So honey if you want to call him and try to win back your man i say go for it!!!!


I wish you the best of luck to you!!!!



Besides if you don't call him then you will always wonder, what could of been?



I got my fingers crossed for you girl!!!

Answer 4

well go after what you want, so that you won't have regrets for the rest of your life. However if he really loves the girl that he is currently with just try to move on an forget about him. Because he will prob. just end up hurting you in the end. If he still really loved you he wouldn't be with another girl but wants meant to be will be. Don't go throwing yourself on him, because he might just use you because he knows the state your in. good luck an don't let him be a dick to you, because there are plenty of great guys out there, that i'm sure will appreciate you

Answer 5

no. no no no. he has a girlfriend. if he was single it would be different but you have to let him move on. you shouldn't be trying to take him away from someone else. IF they don't work out then there is no reason why you can't call him and try to get back together. but take it from someone who has been that girl he has been with for a year. after a year of him saying that he would never get back with her, when she wanted him back, he left me. and it hurt. like hell. i would not do it if he is with someone else. i just think it's wrong.

Answer 6

It all depends on why y'all broke up. If it was for a really bad reason then you should have nothing to do with him. If it was a silly or stupid reason then you should call him and just start a new relation with him and maybe it will grow to the same level it was the last time.

Answer 7

i dont think you should call. he has a girl now, and you calling is gunna cause problems between him and her. maybe thats what your going for cuz they might break up? but what if hes in love with her? then hell be on his deathbed thinking back to you remembering how you ruined his relationship with that girl. hes moved on. so should you. and if its meant to be, then one day you both will be single and you'll bump into each other.

Answer 8

first you might want to find out if he is happy with the girl he is with now/ if you find he is then dont call him. if you find there are troubles maybe call him as a friend. dont try to start anything up between him and his current girl. be his friend and who knows what will happen.

good luck and smile big

Answer 9

You have to wait until he's out of this relationship. Email him or keep in touch with a mutual friend. But I don't think people should stay in touch with their ex's especially when you're in another relationship.

Answer 10

If he hasn't given you any signs that he wants you back, then no, you shouldn't. How would you like it if you start a relationship with a guy you really like, and his ex girlfriend wants to "give it a try to get him back"?...