The bride didn't send me a thank you note for her gift yet. I sent her a $100 gift card to Olive Garden and I knew she used it because I checked the balance on the gift card. Her wedding was in August and now it is November and she didn't even send me a thank you note for it. Does this mean she's ungrateful?
She is my grandpa's niece and she knew I was coming because we have been emailing each other prior to her wedding. I flew from NJ to Cali.
After I came home she emailed me saying that she's sorry she didn't spend time with me when I was there. I emailed her back asking her if she got my gift card and if not, I have insurance for it in case it got lost (I just said that to be nice and I already knew she used it). I haven't heard from her since.
Does this mean she's inconsiderate?
2006-11-16 09:31:15 · 16 answers · asked by choosinghappiness 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No she didn't send thank you notes to my mom either.
2006-11-16 09:51:18 · update #1
I wrote the card number for reference and when I checked the balance it said 0, so I knew she used it.
2006-11-16 09:55:57 · update #2
She could have just sent a thank you email and I would be just as happy
2006-11-16 09:58:15 · update #3
Or extremely busy at present as is still newly-wed. If you haven't received a thank you by say the new year then you may consider her to be very ungracious. If you do not get one consider it as a life lesson and remember how poorly this made you feel and don't ever repeat it yourself. Hope that she does send you one though as this is proper etiquette.
2006-11-16 09:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's lazy and inconsiderate, but what about the groom thanking you why just the bride....they both are benefiting from your gift ...or is he...maybe she kept it to herself??? Use the phone and come right out and ask her and if he answers ask him if they recieved your gift as you were concerned that it may have gotten lost, if yes and thanks you then forget about it. You will now know that she was brought up without showing any respect. You know some Brides and Grooms think that a note that say's thank you on the table at the reception is considered the official thank you...wrong.. & very tacky! Did you see them open your gift, if you did and they thanked you at that time then they probably considered that your thank you. Why not solve the problem and CALL.
2006-11-16 19:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yes...that is very rude..In my personal opion there is really no excuse..I know how that feels I have felt the same exact way when I gave a gift to my boyfriends sister for graduation and she sent thank you cards out and I did not get one..I was extremly offened. My mom always taught us that sending thank-you cards is extremly important..so it's hard for me to understand how people can be so ungrateful and inconsiderate. I always make an effort to send thank you cards for everything, because I know how it feels to not recieve one. I am sorry that, that has happened to you I guess all you can do is know that what goes around comes around...and hopefully she will learn her lesson.
2006-11-16 17:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by thereis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rude of her. But I have been hearing that alot of brides these days dont show respect and considerate it to be important to send out thank you cards! Maybe she is one of those brides?
Maybe she hasnt sent them to anyone?
If you know she has and she never send you and or other guest ones thats really rude!!!
I would try not to worry about it and just know that you were very kind in sending her a gift!!!!!!!!
All the best!!!
2006-11-16 17:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Just ME!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If 6 months pass by and still no thank you note then maybe they didnt send any out. Also remember you werent the only one there. My wife and I just got married (in Oct.) and i still have yet to talk to 60% of the people that went there. Its really hard to keep in touch with everybody. By the way we've started sending thank you cards last week.
2006-11-16 17:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by okinaps319 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt mean she is being inconsiderate since you are being that nosy checking the balance call other people you know and she if she sent them a thank you card she may not have gotten aroiund to it or maybe she dont know she suppose to do it there could be a million reasons why call somebody else and find out you maybe surprised
2006-11-16 17:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Possibly or she is incredibly busy. I was a bridesmaid in June and I still haven't gotten my thank you note. The bride made sure to get all of our addresses after the wedding too. Oh, well. I'll survive.
2006-11-16 17:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a little rude - but that truth is that many brides don't send thank you cards any more. It is a little rude - and a bride shoudl still send thank you cards - but some brides see it as an outdated tradition unfortunatly. It doesn't mean she isn't grateful.
2006-11-16 19:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's been real busy. It's weird that you checked the balance. That means you actually wrote down the card number before you gave it to her.
2006-11-16 17:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nah, it probably just means she is busy, and caught up in her newly married life. Did she send anyone else a thank you note? You know, maybe she just placed a "thank you" ad in the newpaper to thank everyone. It is a lot more convenient and people who have big weddings usually do this.
2006-11-16 17:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by Cblack22 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋