My sister has fear of committment for relationships and she used to be this happy go luck type of girl but over the years she developed a bad attitude and this bad attitude is like her main attitude now. You can tell in her pictures that now that she just isn't happy compared to the ones years ago. I've tryed talking to her and such but her mind set is just like IMO screwed up. Now I know she is like this because she has such horrible views on men in general and it has affected her so much. I'm not sure what to do but I don't like seeing her like this because I want her to be happy and not 20 years down the road alone.
Is this like a hopeless situation because she is like 24 now and she is not getting any younger.
2006-11-16 09:08:30 · 5 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The wrong guy can poison a woman against men for the rest of her life, but the right guy can turn her back around. She's just now getting to the age when she's likely to start meeting the worthwhile, mature guys she needs to encounter, but only if she looks in the right places.
Trust me, I've seen a few very bitter people completely transform in the presence of good, healthy love. Just let it find her.
2006-11-16 09:15:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has been hurt too many times, and fears the pain again. I've been there too. But who says you can't be happy 20 yrs. down the road and not be with someone. Aren't you imposing your idea of happiness on her? It's you who would be unhappy alone. Let her be...She'll find her happiness in her own time. Happiness isn't given to us by others, it's something we decide to be. It's in how we set our minds not in what happens to us or even in what we have in life---love, money, fame.Non of these things guarantee happiness. You'll help her best by supporting her no matter what she decides. Trust her to know what is best for her. Pain fades, in time she will be able to trust again.I doubt she needs you constantly reminding her of her failed relationships. Your remarks should start with "I feel.." not with "you should.." And how about you? Are you really happy in love or did you 'settle' for something less just so you wouldn't end up alone? The only thing we can change on this earth is ourselves, and that is hard enough. If you can't change your sister, then change the way you think about her and please keep your negative thoughts to yourself-- no one needs them- not even you.
2006-11-16 09:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have 3 sisters so feel qualified to answer.
I know you want to help your sister and you obviously love her. Just continue to love her and be there for her....and back off. Let her live her life. Always listen when she needs to talk, and remind her that all men aren't bad, and let her just vent. She has to get through this on her own, and there is nothing you can do, really.
24 is still really young!
2006-11-16 09:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy u should know what to do. and as a brother u should tell her to shake it off because guys will always be guys. tell her not to let a guy kill her self-esteem like that. u could sheer her up by telling ur life story how u r with ur gf if u have one. take her out, spent more time with her and with other friends just to get her back on track.
2006-11-16 09:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did your parents name you lily if you're a guy?
2006-11-16 09:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no she will fall for someone soon enough she has plenty of time.
2006-11-16 09:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by kathy p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋