WE WASNT TOGETHER AT THE TIME AND HED ALWAYS SAID HE DIDNT WANT ANYMORE KIDS BUT WHEN I FELL PREGNANT I COULDNT GO THROUGH WITH ABORTION
2006-11-16 09:07:56 · 22 answers · asked by kirsty8873 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
just so you know i was on the pill at the time and he wants nothing 2 do at all with baby
2006-11-16 09:58:43 · update #1
baby is now 9months old by the way
2006-11-16 10:47:49 · update #2
yes, who cares what he wants, there is a baby now that has needs and her wants come FIRST!!!!!
2006-11-16 09:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good on you if you get anything out of him, I contacted Child Support Agency who were great but he gave up his job so they couldnt retrieve any money from him for more than 2 years, he pays now and has a huge arrears bill too, hes not laughing anymore!! I think absent fathers should pay, why should you raise the child on your own finacially and also has he never heard of contraception, if he didnt want anymore kids he should of used something. He has to and should pay for his child!!
2006-11-16 09:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I know there are a lot of people out there who would say yes but maybe you should really think this through first.
If you go after him for child support and he doesn't pay he could go to jail. If you go after him he could just skip out and that would end that.
If you don't you may feel cheated. Obviously you love this child because you had her. I think that when all is said and done since he wants nothing to do with her you should leave him be. Except for one thing. Get him to sign off on parental rights. If he really does not want anything to do with her or you then it is only fair that he let her go totally.
Good luck!
2006-11-16 21:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends. Can you afford financially to survive without financial help?
Paying maintenance is a huge burden, but not as big a burden as being a mother and looking after a child full time. Especially if you have to work as well.
If you can afford it, leave him be. If not, you have no choice but to pursue him for maintenance.
It is the child that is important here, not the parents. And kids cost. Ask any mother.
2006-11-17 00:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter he is her father weather he likes it or not. If he didn't want any children at all he should have made every precaution to not get you pregnant. Think about your child and all the things she will not have because of you not going for the support and how are you going to explain that to your child? She never got to pick her father so why does she have to loose because he's not ready.
And its not your fault you got pregnant IT TAKES TWO TO HAVE SEX AND CONCEIVE A BABY
2006-11-16 09:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sunangel 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Encourage him not only to pay for upkeep but also to take part in his daughter's life. Reach an agreement with him for a fixed weekly sum. When he comes round to bring you the money he can see his new daughter, take her out, get to know her and -most importantly she'll know her father.
If he won't agree to pay any money over for her then take him to the CSA and make him. Just don't ever withdraw contact because he won't pay - you'll only hurt your child that way.
2006-11-16 09:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt ask him for a penny ans uve done well so far on ure own.i didnt want my babys dad 2 pay as i didnt feel he was a good dad and wouldnt give him any reason to put a claim on her in later years when he felt like being a dad.by all means if he wants access then make sure he contributes the way a father should.if not stuff him and be happy!
2006-11-16 12:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by nic_uym 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it's not the baby's fault that it has irresponsible parents. The money is for the child so he should pay but don't expect it to be easy, he's not going to be happy about it. Next time, use contraception.
2006-11-16 09:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by Jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surly any man in his right mind would WANT to pay for ther child? but i no not many people think the same,ild say definatly follow it up with the child support agency,your babys entitled to the money and thell benefit,stick by your guns! you deserve not to struggle and by the sounds of it your doing a great job.take care! x
2006-11-20 08:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he should pay for his child .. it takes both of u to make a baby .... if u can get him to pay that is ... i mean what would happen if u decided not to support your child ? u cant, so why should he be able to shirk his responsibilities !!
My ex doesn't pay a penny 2wards his 3 sons which sucks ... he has found ways and means so he doesn't have to ... but good luck !!
2006-11-17 00:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dam right u should hon it takes 2 to make a baby and the child is not just ur resonsibility just because hes too much of a tosser to see his child doesent mean to say he should pay maintence good luck x
2006-11-16 11:29:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋