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I feel like im a horrible son.At school im kinda good like i get decent grades.but when i get home im just really bad. like the other day my dad was yelling at me to do the laundry and tht made me mad so i did the whites and then i snuk n2 his room and put bleach in his fish tank. all the fish died and he was mad bc the fish were like 500-700$ each so he kicked me out of the house. i stayed @ a friends house. the next day i came bac home and my mom wanted me to apologize but i didnt and i ended up calling her a stupid bitc*.
I do stuff like tht all the time now and they usually kick me out for like a day or 2.but i do feel really bad that it happens so ive been thinking about runnin away 2 another city w/my friend. (he has relatives tht stay there)

Do u think this would b a good idea?

2006-11-16 08:56:57 · 19 answers · asked by Simply Me 5 in Family & Relationships Family

19 answers

No running away isn't an option! You need to sit down with your parents and have a long talk. You need to figure out why, you are being so bad to your parents, why you keep punishing them, what did they do to deserve the stuff you do to them. But running away, is the coward's way out! Face up to the problems, both you and your parents, and get them solved!

2006-11-16 12:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gaia Weeps 3 · 1 0

Your parents love you. They just want you to be a little responsible, (like helping woth the laundry and apologizing for something you know you did). Killing your father's fish and calling your mother a ***** doesn't diminish their love for you. However, it doesn't mean that you should take advantage of their love and keep doing those things. I think your parents are probably just frustrated about how to deal with the things you do (that's why you are kicked out frequently)...you need to meet them half way here.

I definitely DO NOT think that i'd be a great idea to run away. Have you thought about this? what makes you think that your friend's relatives would want to take you in (for long anyway)? Do you think you have what it takes to survuve in today's world? You could end up dead at 15 (how old are you anyway?) for all you know.

I recommend that you stay home, with your parents. People that you KNOW love you. Work on your attidude. Help around home. And instead of calling your mother a stupid *****, thank her for loving you unconditionally.

2006-11-16 11:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by smokey 2 · 1 0

You don't have to run away. You could make things work. You, like me, have anger control problems. There is something other than this that is bothering you. Some underlying stress. Talk to a counselor about it if you want to. I think a part of you doesn't feel in control and so you try to get it in other ways. The fact that you feel bad about what you did, shows that you are looking for change. What you did was very bad and hurtful so try to make it up in other ways. Whenever you feel like cussing or anything else, do the complete opposite. Be extremely nice. Set goals for yourself in the mornings.

2006-11-16 09:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Running away won’t do any good, and, quite frankly, it’s the coward’s way out. You have to confront your problems head on, no matter how hard they may seem at times. It may seem like the hardest thing to do, so hard that some people would prefer death (or in your case, running away from home), but you have to tell your family how you feel (use all the strength you can muster). Explain to them what you told us, that you love them and want to make an effort to change. Ask them if you could get some counseling. If they can’t afford one, you could get one in school. Of course, if you can’t tell them, you can just go straight to the school psychologist, but you may not get their added support. Also, it’ll be hard trying to explain why you’re staying after school.
PS-Remember, it’s important to get professional help. They’ll give you the tools and behavioral strategist to change your behavior. It’ll just make it easier. If it can't be helped, just go to the school psychologist in secret to deal with your behavioral problems. This also takes some courage but try your hardest. Do it for the love that you have for your family.

2006-11-16 09:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Oleip 1 · 0 0

u cant run away from life....regardless of whether u stay at home or run away u will still have to answer to someone.....when u live with someone else u have to live by their rules...even when u are out on your own and have your own place there will still be rules....in the real world there are consequences for everything & they are a whole lot worse than when you piss your parents off...what will u do in the real world when your boss ticks u off?? if you cuss him out or do something mean to him then u will get fired & wont be able to pay the rent..then u will be homeless or begging to come back home to mom & dad...and if u keep on flippin out everytime u dont get your way youll end up in jail...the best thing for u to do is stick it out and try to get your head together so u can actually survive when u do end up on your own...accept the fact that life will not always go your way now and save yourself alot of pain & jailtime!!!

2006-11-16 09:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by truth4u 2 · 1 0

no way ..u shouldnt ever think about running away.its the worst way to hurt your parents.it ruins not only your life but theirs.just because you get yelled at and kicked out doesnt mean they would be better off without you.you shouldnt be so mean to your parents.i bet they have done alot for you and the least you can do is listen to them once in a while.think about your future its so gonna suck.you'll probably endup working at a mcdonalds or if your lucky a wal-mart.dont end your relationship with your parents just becuase things arent workiong out..they love you more than anything(trust me) you over react when they ask you to do a little thing..just do it and dont complain.your parents are way more grateful to have you in their house..your friends realatives can never give you what your parents can and will.if you feel bad about it then dont do it anymore its as simple as that.
trust me everything will work out just please dont runaway

2006-11-16 09:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by =] 3 · 1 0

Sounds to me that you need a good dose of tough love. Do you know how many kids in this world would love to have a washing machine just to be able to the laundry? Maybe you should take a good look around you and see the big picture.;

2006-11-16 09:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by goose 1 · 1 0

Running away is never the answer. But try these things:

1.When you feel like saying and doing bad things, say them in your head and not out loud

2.Write stuff down in a secret diary and get out your anger

3.Try spending a fun family night with them and apoligize and say your new behaviors

4.Take a long nap when your frustrated

5.Try yoga or meditating. It relaxes you.

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2016-11-24 23:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by binette 4 · 0 0

You sound like a spoiled brat. So what if you have to do laundry? Runaway and you'll find out that you would really like to be able to have clean clothes. Also, good luck on finding a pimp who won't beat you if you yell back at him.

2006-11-16 09:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by kayla j 1 · 1 0

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