Is it safe to assume that if the girl your on date with, first date i mean, if she doesn't want to be touched or held by you than they are most likely not interested in you at least more than just friendship wise?
2006-11-16 08:56:47 · 30 answers · asked by jack l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok maybe i didnt' clarify it more....We had already met for coffee like the day before and we talked for hours on that night and prior to that, we talked a lot too. She has told me she is very affectionated person and that shy like to cuddle, and wouldn't mind cuddling with me on our first date. But on our date, she changes her mind and tells me she not comfortable afterall......
2006-11-16 09:08:15 · update #1
Yeah, seriously! Why are you trying to hold her on the 1st date???
Let her get to know you and want to be held by you first.
Sheesh!!!
:)
2006-11-16 08:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Boodie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, its still very early in your relationship with her. This is your second date, and you have talked to her once for a few hours. She may have said she wants to be cuddled, but it is way too early. It doesn't mean she's not interested, its just that she may be hesitant to start a physical relationship. Just respect the (even if unspoken) boundaries. Give her time to really get to know you and develop trust. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. Also, keep your desire for physical contact in check. It is real easy for hormones to get out of hand. Also, it can make it more difficult to get to know her as a person. That is where real love will develop. If you do get into a serious relationship with her, set boundaries on the physical part of the relationship. Going too far in a dating relationship can wreck it.
2006-11-16 12:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first date is a tricky one. This is when you talk and see if there will be another one. If you are tring to get your hands on her that quick I'll bet money that she wont have another date with you.
Most girls aren't into touching as much the first date, but if she wants to touch you on the first date then play it safe and let her initiate contact.
2006-11-16 09:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Slappin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the girl and how things are going on the first date. If there's a mutual attraction, then it might be okay to hold hands or whatever. But if she recoils from your touch, you're probably moving too fast for her!! Doesn't mean she doesn't like you though.
2006-11-16 08:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by jenahfah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily. she may think your interested in one thing and one thing only. maybe? you have a decent girl. honestly, i would not want my first date holding me for i really don't know him. id rather go out and do things, talk and get to know you.if you sleep with someone the first date what impression does it give the man? she is easy and most likely does this with every date and he does not want her.if you want a one-night-er go to a bar they say the girls all look better at closing time. if you want a good girl be patient
2006-11-16 09:04:56 · answer #5 · answered by shiznick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the first date this girl doesn't even know you . How can she
make a decision as to weather she is interested in you .
Give the Girl a chance .
2006-11-16 09:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she may be interested but just not ready to be all touch feely with you on a first date. That's totally respectable. If you ask her out again and she says no, then that would mean she's not interested.
2006-11-16 08:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you got information all wrong. Some girls shy. Especially on first date, it wrong to assume you can put your grubby hands all over her on first date. Not the gentelman thing to do. You keep this up, it shows you only want sex, not love. Smart girls see past your bullshit.
Trust Yammaha, I know the ways of love.
2006-11-16 09:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I would not think this as true at all... you said 1st date right? she has to get a feel for you... give it a chance. not many respectable females are going to be like all over you on the 1st date... some are shy...some just are not affectionate like that. it just depends on the person.
2006-11-16 08:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by CoopyDoopy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no it jsut means they're shy or dont want to go to fast it is the first date after all. Dont worry about it. If by the 3rd date she doesnt want you near her u may want to consider it though.
2006-11-16 08:59:43 · answer #10 · answered by pirate prince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is false since females will allow a guy to hold them that they aren't interested in. i have guy friends that will hold and console me but its strictly platonic. But also, first date wise, she could be nervous or just interested in friendship. Females are nothing but a power tower of emotions, we have misc. reasons why we do things. But the girl could either be uninterested, nervous, and/or shy. It also depends on the female and her reactions.
2006-11-16 09:06:38 · answer #11 · answered by Tainted Soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋