I know all guys do this,it's just in their nature. But i wish my boyfriend would'nt make it so obvious,i'd rather him wait until i'm not in the room or my backs turned or something. I dont like when he does this but i dont want him to think i'm jealous or possessive because his last girlfriends were like that. Should i give him a taste of his own medicine and look at other guys?
2006-11-16 08:47:00 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's a man thing we all check out other women all the time 24 7 dose he do i on the sly. pay no attention to it. if you trust him. but in general men don't compare when they look all they see is boobs smile *** shape of crotch in jeans. and oh yes id like to give her one if i was not completely devoted to the beautiful woman at my side. ps any one that says you should do it dose not under stand human nature. if you notice that you look well trying not to look wont work but if you by nature's design dont look well dont force it. you should be able to talk to him about it and have a laugh
2006-11-16 08:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by brioduinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this is something that I struggle to accept about men too. My boyfriend is not obvious about it, but I know he does it and it hurts me too. I would tell your boyfriend how much it bothers you. It's not about being jealous, it's about you wanting to be His beauty and if he's affirming every other attractive female out there, you're going to feel insecure. You just need to know like every other women in a committed relationship that he only has eyes for you. Tell him that you realize that as man he is enticed to look, but that it is painful for you. Best of luck- you're not alone when it comes to feeling like this. Sometimes I wonder how any woman could want to be with a man for that reason, but I'm not willing to go the other way.
2006-11-16 08:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Psychgirl35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont do that when im in love with someone because whats the point of being with you and looking at other women its stupid I never look at other women when im in a relationship as I only have eyes for my girl (sounds corny) but its true and at least I make her feel beautiful by not making her worry and making her feel like she is being compared thats just dumb
If he is really into you he wouldnt look around
2006-11-16 10:36:48 · answer #3 · answered by Music fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend always looks at other women, he used to be a Personal Trainer so he points out everything that is either wrong or right with the women that he looks at. If I see a guy I tell me bf about it, what I like or dislike about him.
As long as he is only looking then I wouldn't worry about it, you should feel comfortable enough with each other and trust each other enough to be ok with looking at other people.
Don't worry about it, he is with you, if he wanted to be with any of these girls he is looking at I think you would know by now :)
2006-11-16 09:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to 'window shop'. I dare say you might even do it too but in a less obvious way :-). The important thing is..........accept it as a fact of life, don't make an issue of it. After all, just because someone window shops it doesn't mean they are 'going to buy'. Think of it this way............he looks, but is still with you......so, where is the problem other than your own insecurity?
2006-11-16 08:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear you think he is doing it to make you jealous. There is a small chance he might be, but if he lets you see him looking at them he is trying to tell you something!
He is letting you know thats what he likes thats what he is interested in. Sounds like he is not satisfied. I would never get caught myself because he is obviously making you feel bad.
Ask him up front, say HEY WHAT YOU LOOKING AT! YOU WANNA PICTURE?
If he doesnt explain get rid get a real man. By that I don't mean me.
2006-11-16 09:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mark U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately give him a dose of his own medicine. If he dosesnt disapprove, or improve his behaviour then enjoy the show.
If you still dont like it then get rid because he has no respect for your feelings and this is unlikely to change.
2006-11-16 08:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by toni 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you just try to talk to him in a calm and reasonable way. He may not be aware that you're so unconfortable with this.
if he still doesn't get the message give him a taste of his own medicine.
2006-11-16 09:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by sid_blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not the solution as two wrongs don't make a right. Talk to him openly and tell him that this makes you feel second-best, also it shows how disrespectful he is towards you. If he doesn't want to change, then dump him and tell him to go to one of those women.
2006-11-16 09:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you more than likely do look at other men, its only human and no harm is meant the same for him and myself. only i make sure i don't get caught looking by my g/f. i have been told by my g/f if johnny depp came into the house my back would be covered in her footprints as she scrambled over me to shag johnny. i understand that and know there is no contest between me and him. its life. looking and not touching isn't a bad thing.
2006-11-16 23:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋