Im 16. My best friend, neighbor, practically sisters, was diagnoised wit a brain tumor a few days ago. Her surgery was today. She turned 17 the day b4 she found out. Good news, it didnt spread. Bad news, we wont kno if its cancer untill its out n they can perform tests on it for God knows how long. Ive never been in such a confussin stressful almost unreal situation such as this. It was a smack in the face. Im starting to get into a depression. After skool I jus come straight to the computer instead of workingout for an hour lyk I usually would. Im eating lyka pig n have no willpower. Nuttin matters anymore except for her health n happiness. I wake up shaking n dont stop till the middle of my skool day where I have no choice but to fake a smile 4 my friends. Im scared lyk Ive never been. Im always so honoest wit my feelings n its the hardest thing to fake happiness.
N I cant help but feel rediculous b asking 4 help wen my friend is the one that needs it most.
Im loosing my way. < / 3
2006-11-16 08:27:32 · 7 answers · asked by L-in 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Stay strong, the reason everything feels unreal to you right now is because you are probably still in shock. I think it would be good for you to stop pretending that you are fine and talk to someone, you made the first step in asking for help on here but now you need to find someone you trust and explain how you feel because you need to be comforted too, as well as your best friend. I'm sure she would be unhappy to know you are suffering. You can get through this tough time and you should know that your friend will too, despite things looking so bleak right now. The main thing is that it has been detected, is being treated and has not spread. You all need to help each other through these times, and that also means helping yourself too. I wish you and your friend all the best. Take care.
2006-11-16 08:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Violet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that your friend would want you to ruin yourself because she is going through this?? You need to be strong for her. I know it is a hard thing to deal with and I understand that it can be depressing. But how do you think she would feel if she knew you were giving up on yourself. Don't do this to yourself or to her. Don't let this be an excuse to give up. She may come out of this fine and live a long healthy life. Be strong for your friend, Try to force yourself to still do those workouts they will be good for your mental well being. Talk to someone and adult someone at the hospital, your friends family. If you withdraw it will only make it worse. And don't fake smiles be yourself, If your sad be sad it's normal. Good luck and my prayers are with you and your friend.
2006-11-16 08:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to determine what your afraid of? You know if tuck the covers in around your legs at nignt they keep the monsters out you know. Have you tried to pray and ask the Lord for guidance? You know tirals are for everyone, the key is how you handle them. You know what your afraid of, I guess just putting the burden on Gods shoulders is the best. Worry on brings more worry. Change your worry to a plan. One that will help you and your friend. You can do it , I am sure of it!!!
2006-11-16 08:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad things happen to good people all the time. All you can do is be there for your friend and pray for her! If you are scared this badly, the best thing you can do is talk to someone about it. Talk to your friends, your parents, your other relatives, or a counselor. I know thinking about someone having anything wrong with their brain is scary, but you can get through it! Good luck!
talk to somebody, anybody!
2006-11-16 08:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there don`t feel bad about the way you feel its normal you are worried about a friend and plus you worry about what if something like that was to happen to you thats part of being human but she`ll be ok and you will too let the doctors do there job you will see every thing will be fine ...
2006-11-16 08:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...i dont know what to say, but i understand how you feel. this is not your fault you shouldnt roing your self because of this, i am sure your friend doesnt want that! since you dont know what will happen in the future than i sugest you make your friend live the best years of her life to try to make up for what she has to
deal with. that is all i can say. hope this helps! Good Luck!
2006-11-16 08:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by Amineh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy 4 anyone to see a loved one go thru something like this. First you need to turn to God. He can help you get thru this. God has better plan than we could ever think of. Open a bible, ask God to show you what you need to read and to give you understandig. If you don't have one go to the library or to a teacher at school. If you would like me to help you get scriptures you can e-mail me at bwjblj@yahoo.com.
2006-11-16 08:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by goose 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋