Parents: Do you consider it abuse to spank kids on their bare skin?

Question

Like, with the pants pulled down.

I'm not a parent, but I'm curious as to what you all think of this.

Answer 1

NO
Otherwise, myself and my husband would be arrested, lol. Our 3 daughters (ages3, 7, and 10) all get spanked this way.

Some may disagree, but I find that spanking on the bare hiney is much more effective then trying to make an impact through clothes. When I talk about spanking, it means that one of our daughters has either done a major no no (broken one of our core rules), or this is the last resort.

Of course we try other methods first. Yes time outs, taking toys away, groundings all work for some misdeeds. However when it's called for nothing seems to work better then a good old fashioned spanking (which is exactly what a bare bottom spanking is). The craziest thing I hear about this is that spanking bare could be considered sexual abuse, the things people dream up, people always seem to try to make things into what they are not. I never will understand that. Spanking pants down is very legal, contrary to what people might think.

As a child I was spanked mostly pants down, however there were a few times, when they were left up. The biggest difference I remember is the noise of it. Pants up didn't quite send the same message of a pants downer. As a child I was spanked quite a bit, for almost everything. As a mom I decided that I would only spank for major rule breaking, or if everything else is tried first, but when I do spank it will have the most impact to prevent us from having to do more in the future.

Hope this helps

Answer 2

As long as it is done in a calm and controlled way when a child has done something wrong, it is not abuse. I much prefer using a paddle or belt because I feel that my kids should only feel love and comfort from my hands, not pain. I also firmly believe that all spanking after about age 5 or 6 should be on the bare bottom for several reasons: Because taking time to pull down pants and underwear provides time for both parent and child to calm down, because the embarrassment adds to the punishment value and gets the message across with less actual spanking, and because having the bottom bare allows you to see what you are doing and avoid spanking too hard or too long.

Answer 3

I would say it depends on the situation.
The punishment to fit the crime.

Punishing a little 3 year old for playing with the extension cord time and time again -- well thats alot different that having to punish an 8 year old little boy who stole something for the first time.

Bare bottom seems alittle extreme...as does a wet extension cord. But remember not all parents have the same parenting level. Some have a finese approach that is more mental that is just about the same if not more effective a punishment than a good ol butt whoopin.
I know when my tests me, I have an easy fix for everything she can throw my way. Should she ever steal...well thats one of those things she gets an automatic butt whoopin for.
So she'll know never to do it again.

I was only hit 3 times as a child, and I remmeber each one of them. and I deserved them.
Did I do that again.
No!
So i believe you have to stick with what works.

But again...the punishment has to fit the crime.

Most parents fdont realize that the childs attitude is a direct reflection of their response.
I cantstand when a little kid gets spanked for running around. thats what kids do. parents should be aware that as soon as they put down their little kid, its off to the races.
So they have to keep an eye and a hand at them -- and keep them occupied or controlled. the failure is theirs if a youngster is out running in the streets, or out of an office or anywhere.

Now, I also cant stand when a parent DOES NOT hit their kid when the child decides a perfect place to throw a tantrum is in a department store.
Heck, my girl ever did that, SMACK SMACK in the butt, and a few more when she gets home. plain and simple, when daddy says no, daddy means no.

But then again, thats why you set aside al your pennys quarters and dollars, so when you go to a store, you already know your child will want something, so dig into their piggy bank, and let them know this is what you have, this is how much it costs, you cant afford it unles youwant to do something extra around the house.
Granted they cant get that 200 playstation, as soon as they want it.
But if you tell them something they have to do, you can avoid all that nonsense altogether.
But never is it acceptable to act out liek kids do in stores.
SMACK SMACK that behind time.

But again, the punishment must fit the crime

Answer 4

My son is only 7 months old, but I've read up on disipline for toddlers and most books say that most kids don't know why their being reprimanded.
In answer to the question, I personally say: yes to spanking when he gets older I would say 5 or 6, but never bare skin and it wouldn't hurt. The spank would only be to show wrong from right. Obviously, a talk after the effects of the spank would be recommended as well.

Answer 5

I would never pull down my children's pants to spank. Nor, would I use the belt. Both these methods were used on me as a child. And, I don't believe that is a good way to teach.

However, I think a little smack on the hand or pat on the butt may be necessary at times. I don't judge a parent for that - they know their kids better than I do.

My son is only eight months old, but he is so well behaved. I think it's because I don't react to him. Or, at least I try. Now that I'm sick and pregnant with number 2 it is harder not to show my fustration...especially when he runs for the stairs or grabs a cord. Just cause I know it could hurt him...

Answer 6

yes, i agree with spanking when the parent is not angry but not bare butted. we talk to my stepdaughter when she gets out of hand she has to go sit on her bed for 15 minutes to cool off then come talk to us about what happened. Take a adult time out to that way if you had fault in the problem that can come out also. She does absolutely nothing till we talk though.

Answer 7

No. But I don't think a parent should spank their children when they (the parents) are angry. That's when you cross the line into abuse because your emotions take over. My parents raised me on "spare the rod, spoil the child". Spanking is not abuse.

Answer 8

NO!! I am a parent of 2 and once in a blue moon you have to use this sort of dicipline in order to drive the point through.

Answer 9

my son doesn't like to wear underwear(2 1/2yr) I give him a little spank to let him know that is what happends if don't wear underwear.But I don't take his pants down just to spank him...

Answer 10

My thhinking on this is simple. A bare assed swat is nessary but moreso is lot's of love and hug's!
Children will want to please for the positave reward