I just broke up with my boyfriend becasue I dont think he likes me anymore. In the begining he treated me so good. I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with him. We had some issues with him being jealous and I though we were past it. Now he does not want to spend time with me, we only been out together once in two weeks and he does not call that much anymore. I feel lonely and unwanted so I called it quits. Was I wrong or did I give up to quick? We had only been together for 3 mos.
2006-11-16 08:05:08 · 21 answers · asked by Sparkle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you will know soon if you did the right thing or not.... if he comes back to you saying he still wants to be with you then you should probably reconsider it but if he doesnt then you kno you did the right thing. just wait to see his reaction to things...
Good Luck!
2006-11-16 08:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by xkie07x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing you broke it off when you did, you don't want to be a year into a relationship and feel unwanted. At least you figured it out now rather than 2 1/2 years later like I did! In the early stages of a relationship he still needs to prove himself to you, prove that he wants you around, because you haven't been together all that long.
2006-11-16 16:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know anything about you, but I know people I have dated in the past and it is easy for a girl to drive a guy away by her actions. Have you heard the term "smothered"? It means that you maybe you make it too easy for him and you are around him all the time. Do you call him ALL the time? Do you hang out with him ALL the time? Do you get mad at him if isn't talking or acting the way you want him to? Guys react negatively, and I am not sure why (just a feeling we get) when a girl becomes...err...clingy. So maybe that has something to do with it.
2006-11-16 16:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Cillosis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure your age, but given the fact that you two have been together for only 3 short months, I think it was wise to call it "quits". If he does want to be with you, he will make the effort, Otherwise I would move on.
Good Luck w/Future Relationships!
2006-11-16 16:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by BK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men make this mistake all the time. Women (well....NORMAL women) all want the same thing.....a strong man who loves them. Strong basically boils down to being a high quality man who knows what the hell he is doing. But, love is much harder for a man to nail down because our needs are so much different than yours. A man can be happy for WEEKS alone somewhere, not talking to anyone. To get an idea of just how different we are. That would drive the average woman absolutely ape crazy. Also, if a woman leaves us, it is no big deal. We are self sufficient and have real power to effect the world. We'll just get another woman. However, it is a very different situation for women. Prior to the last few generations, if a man left his women, she, and their children would starve to death. And that's the way it's been for almost all of human history. This is a problem and all (again...all NORMAL women) will act pre-emptively if they think for one moment that it's possible her man will abandon her at the worst possible time.
That's what you did here with your boyfriend. Think about it. He's thinking about how great it is to screw your brains out and not much else. The last thing on his mind is if he has to safeguard the relationship. Out of the blue (well, seemingly to him) you dump his ***. But, he doesn't exactly act like it is the end of the world. What happened here? He was ignorant of how you think differently than him. He's not thinking about the future while you are thinking about spending the rest of your life with him. Because of that, you have a biologically ingrained instinct to constantly check to see if he is the type of man who will abandon you and your children to a cruel death sometime down the road. So, you are constantly testing him on this. Does he love me. Does he call me. Is he emotionally invested in me. Meanwhile, he's going along, la, la, la, not a care in the world, not thinking about any of that crap. A couple of weeks go by and he doesn't call because there is a Star Trek marathon on and he wants to see if he can eat $20 worth of taco bell and a case of beer in one sitting. If you were to ask him, he'd say, hell yeah, I love her and our relationship is great. But, in your head, your going, oh mah gawd, he never calls me, HE DOESN'T LOVE ME ANYMORE. Then, without really knowing why, you are dumping his *** even though you don't really want to.
How do you fix this? By telling him what I just told you. He will react in one of two ways. Either he will laugh in your face and tell you he just wanted you as a piece of *** (in which case you SHOULD dump him) or he will act all sorts of pissed off and say you are misreading him and that he loves you, blah, blah, blah, but will promise to do those things that make you feel loved (if you spell them out for him).
2006-11-16 16:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he probably just treated you like that at the beginning because he knew you would want that. Now hes more comfortable around you and he cant always be completely with you. If he didnt talk to you then it was a gfood idea to break up with him, but you should work through your problems
2006-11-16 16:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by x4_love_and_memories 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it was good that you let him go. If you are unhappy being in it only 3 months then its time to move on. If you still feel strong about him and think that you might be able to make it work then tell him you need a break to think things out.
2006-11-16 16:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend if you weren't feeling it then you did the right thing but just remember if you cant bear to be in a restaurant with another guy and run into your x with another girl and smile and go on your own way and feel fine then you know that you have made a really bad mistake. so if you think that you are ready to see him with another girl then you are doing the right thing. and if you think that by leaving him it will make him want you more then you are wrong.
2006-11-16 16:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by ~annie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the big picture, 3 months is not that long for him to start acting like that. I really think that you did do the right thing by letting him go. It sounds like he did become disconnected with you. You really deserve someone who can trust you and will be there for you when you need him. ;)
2006-11-16 16:09:28 · answer #9 · answered by *mxgirl115* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, you seemed to do the right thing. If it was meant to be and if he misses you, he will call you. When one person in the realtionship changes like that so suddenly and so extremely, something is going on. See what happens now that he does not have you.
2006-11-16 16:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way were you wrong. What we feel in our hearts is most of the time direct on to what is really going on. It's better to cut it now then to wait down the road. It only gets harder the longer you go..
2006-11-16 16:07:25 · answer #11 · answered by sweetchesta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋